For the person sense of security - one of important components of life. A comfort zone – laborious forming of the relation with the world around, the phenomena, a situation according to the internal ideas of a cosiness, safety and stability.
What is a comfort zone?
People build the life so that everything became clear and habitual. Physiological (vital) requirements, a sense of security, love and participation in any social group – all this that is necessary for most of people. The steady zone of comfort – a certain area of vital space where to the person everything habitually familiarly and functions so is so formed that it is not necessary to make efforts - life situations occur practically on automatism: routes, stereotypic behavior, house, family, work.
What enters a comfort zone at different people:
- inner world with installations and beliefs;
- personal space;
- the day painted on hours and minutes;
- cup of coffee since morning with toasts;
- morning exercises or jog;
- activity within the area in the city;
- purchases in the same shops;
- habitual work for several years;
- competence of the business;
- flavoring addictions;
- everyday actions and rituals.
Comfort zone in psychology
Psychologists on a question: what is a comfort zone in psychology answer that it is a resource of the person which was created thanks to stable neural relations. As a result, the automatic skills which are not demanding energy expense as it occurred at initial stages when certain efforts were required are formed. People carefully preserve the created patterns of a way of life, and are afraid to destroy the cozy world.
Comfort zone in communication
The personal space is necessary for health and successful activity. The person feels in bigger safety when interaction borders with other people are observed. Comfort zones at communication in classical psychology can be divided into 4 radiuses:
- Intimate zone – on average up to 45 cm, distance of an outstretched arm. Carefully guarded space uneasiness and is perceived by the person, invasion into which causes notable concern, as encroachment. In this zone sexual partners and dear people are comfortably perceived. Limits of intimacy are often broken at a trip in public transport, at movie theaters, actions with a big congestion of the people.
- Personal (personal) zone – up to 1.2 m. Parties, secular receptions and people, with which superficial acquaintance.
- The social zone – up to 3.5 m of people prefers to hold a distance with unfamiliar people.
- Public zone – from 3.5 m. In public places, the free space is important for the person.
Comfort zone in the relations
The relations of two loving people promptly develop: over time habits are learned, passions cease, there is an acceptance of the partner to all his features and whims. The zone of comfort of the person extends, and partners in many respects cease to hesitate of each other. The trust and disappearance of concern will be signs that the relations entered a zone of comfort, related to that as I look in his / her eyes?.
What does the comfort zone lead to?
Zone of own comfort the necessary phenomenon for each personality. What the person develops during the activity: material benefits, cultural wealth, public relations, the personal relations - all this positive aspect which comprises a support and holds the person on pilaf. Stagnation of processes or stagnation will be negative aspect of a zone of personal comfort.
Why to leave a comfort zone?
What occurs when people get stuck for a long time in oasis and for what it is important to overcome fears and to leave habitual, comfortable conditions? Not for all an exit for a framework is relevant, the person as a part of the nature and the Universe strives from chaos for rest. To understand what for?, the individual has to ask a question: What is such comfort, useful out of a zone, what will bring me notable benefit?. The reasons for which the personality can leave a comfort zone:
- lack of sense in life;
- existence of a definite purpose and motivation;
- need for full change of impressions;
- vital circumstances are built in such a way that it is already impossible to live as before;
- prospect of personal growth: training, career;
- understanding of the fact that continuous stay in a zone of comfort leads to degradation and an emotional otupleniye.
How to leave a comfort zone?
Exit from a zone of comfort is accompanied by risks and stresses – ancient protective mechanisms of unexplored territory turn on. It is necessary to understand it and it is important to respect an organism which so to care for the owner, in everything gradualness. Conditionally there are two ways of an exit: rigid which is established before the person by life (the injuring, tragic situations) and a conscious exit when the personality herself makes the decision to leave. There are no certain actions, their each person builds itself, but there are general recommendations of psychologists:
- Accurate understanding by the person of borders beyond which he is afraid to go.
- Search of the main causes of resistance and preventing to carry out conceived.
- Implementation of an exit, by immersion in the new affairs and situations causing fear and discomfort.
Will help with it methods are simple:
- to jump with a parachute;
- to approach to get acquainted the first;
- for settled – to begin to travel;
- to learn a foreign language;
- to leave low-paid and unworthy work;
- to play sports;
- to change a daily routine;
- to move to other city, the country;
- to study a new profession;
- to begin to show an initiative at work.
How to expand a comfort zone?
The zone of comfort is not the static phenomenon. Expansion happens if the person any time is engaged in types of activity, new to himself, makes unfamiliar actions which shortly become habitual and lives fit into its field. Only at going beyond ordinary borders the zone of personal comfort extends. At this stage the psychologists advise:
- To begin with small, gradually increasing volumes of actions.
- New action has to become a habit and be fixed not less than 21 days (permanent fixing ≈ 90 days).
- To ensure support of friends - the motivation and enthusiasm run low, and close people are a source for maintenance of intention to move further.
- To fix the slightest results of changes, success and to compare itself present to itself yesterday's.
Books about a comfort zone
Exit from a comfort zone the only way of development for the person realizing that life is concluded in the movement. How to overcome a comfort zone, the reader learns from books:
- How to leave a comfort zone. Guide to personal efficiency. M. Anderson is the author of the book compares a comfort zone to the Bermuda Triangle in which everything disappears: ambitions, dreams.
- Leave a comfort zone. Change the life. 21 methods of increase in personal efficiency. B. Traci is the American speaker imparts experience eating of frogs - so he calls exit situations from a comfort zone.
- To hell all! Undertake and do! R. Branson – a slogan of the book Live — Means to Try New!. The person brand learns how to enjoy life to the full and to succeed in new.
- Try – it will turn out! When you last time what - that was done for the first time? S. Godin is an author generously shares the counters in overcoming fears of undertakings, inspires on great causes.
- Kindle fire! Sincere councils for those who look for the way D. Laport - the book for women who lead ordinary life and forgot about the desires.