The thought of loneliness frightens many people since in society this phenomenon is equated to uselessness, indifference and emptiness of life. But exist, for example, and such persons who not only accept loneliness, but also consciously choose it. Different categories of people experience loneliness in own way.
Instruction
1. The way of experience of loneliness depends on many factors: reasons of its emergence, temperament of the person, type of the personality, influence of people around. All people experiencing loneliness can be divided into three groups. The first group feels lonely and seeks to fill the life with people. The second group treats loneliness as a temporary phenomenon – i.e. accepts it, but realizes that over time everything will change. The third group of people aspires to loneliness as a source of self-knowledge, self-improvement and creativity.
2. The people who are afraid of loneliness often run away from it in the noisy companies and populous entertaining institutions, bring hundreds of friends on social networks, etc. Some such persons make great progress in career or successfully build the business. Most of all they want to create illusion of the fact that around them many people, they are successful and demanded. Other widespread way to avoid loneliness is dissolution in the partner. In that case this is not about love – the person uses another not to feel the uselessness. For a solution of the problem of loneliness and creation of the new harmonious relations these people need to accept the state and to understand itself, i.e. to pass from the first group into the second.
3. People who treat the loneliness as a temporary phenomenon do not try to create visibility of active social life or the relations. Alone with themselves they perceive time as the destiny gift intended in order that they had an opportunity to live the life, to understand itself, the preferences, misses in the relations. The loneliness is given them by the chance to hear itself, to estimate the uniqueness, to begin to care for itself as without loving itself, the person will not manage to fall in love with someone another. Problems, such people, connected with the fact that a certain period of life should be spent alone, try to solve structurally, for example, learn to remove independently sexual stress, find to themselves interesting classes.
4. The third group of lonely people are those who chose such way of life independently. It is a little such persons, to them as Schopenhauer told, "… the loneliness brings double benefit: first, to be not to be, secondly, with itself with others". The loneliness allows the persons liking to look it on the world without vanity and daily haste. To be alone with itself for them is not isolation, and a privacy and freedom from others influence. For creative people time alone the most fruitful – it gives inspiration and a set of the fine ideas.