The very first example for imitation are parents. They also put in the heads of children understanding that it is good and that it is bad. Subsequently full repetition of habits of parents and those actions which they do in the presence of children turns out.
Formation of the physical aspects which are shown in life
The period of the first development of independence of the child, begins at the age of three-four years. At this time the child begins to notice in itself the personality and to reject the help of parents. Most often you should face such phrases as: "I", "mine" and so on. In this time it to be necessary to begin to accustom it to a pot and most to clean up, or to do small work, such as: to force to collect all the toys or to begin to wash hands before food, to learn to tie laces and to help with life.
And there are biggest problems before which you need to stock up with patience. Sometimes children go to far in independence and begin to do superfluous, thinking that they do all correctly and for it will praise them. As practice shows, all occurs on the contrary. Parents do not need to kill enthusiasm of the child, it is better to give it "freedom of action" because sharp reeducation can affect behavior and an emotional condition of the kid which will beat off any interest in implementation of instructions of adults.
One of frequent complaints of parents consists in difficulties to force their children to sit down at homework or when this task drags on on a wide interval of time. Here matter in the wrong distribution of time and the distracting factors. Such, as: the switched-on TV, music, a conversation not on a subject.
For the child it is very important to concentrate and not to distract. If you seated him on a workplace, remove all distracting components and leave in its field of vision only textbooks or working material with what it should work. Remind him that if there are problems that called you to the aid.
Development of personal independence
Important making in formation of the identity of the child. In this stage of the small life it will make the decisions and to understand what it can cause consequences. In this step of development of the child it is important not to limit it in the choice and as a result if it is incorrect, will study on the mistakes.
If the child does not understand what to choose, then it is possible to put him in a framework, for example: we will go to a zoo or at cinema? The child can be put in a framework, but it is not necessary to give him only one choice because it can be reflected further. If he offered you the mad idea, then explain that he so cannot be and offer something "grounded".
Development in the child of quality of independence – the business not of one day and demanding both from you and from the child, great patience, and on it at you only one chance. Do not miss it!