In the modern world children develop still, as well as many years ago. The teenage period brings upon parents a lot of trouble and experiences. Many teenagers think that they can take care and solve about themselves when to come home. But, if to try to help the child to endure together this stage in life, everything can become in a different way …
Solution of problems together. Happens so that the child, that without knowing, snares drug addiction, hooliganism and the bad company. Becomes dangerous to surrounding society. For the parent the main task is to do not pass the moment that to the child there are changes. Not to put on "pink glasses"! The main thing to work. In such situation the constant control is necessary. Take a vacation at work, ask relatives to help. If it is necessary, will address, and the help to experts: to psychologists, narcologists. Try to find contact with your child.
Tell it that you with it in any situation. You look at it, as at equal. Help it to find other hobbies. It can be sports sections, whenever possible excursions to places what he dreamed to visit. Share all sorrows together with the child, tell him about the teenage problems. And he will stretch. The main rule for this period is not to shout, be able to listen. If you want to reach the child that it listened to you, you should learn to do it. Parents who listen and hear, the child always hold authority with teenagers. The patience and love for the child will sort things out. Over time the child will thank you for the shown sympathy, care and readiness to understand at a difficult moment. And you, will be firmly sure of what all made correctly.
You do not blame yourself. At emergence on the horizon of troubles, parents often think over such question: "Of what I am guilty? What did I make not so? When did miss?". These questions can drive you into a corner and cause a depression. Do not allow such thoughts to overcome you. Thus, you do much harm to yourself and the child who needs your support, more than ever at present. Of course, it is worth recognizing that when your child grew up, perhaps, you began to give less to him attention. And he needs communication with you also now. But to blame itself, a useless waste of time. Try to correct a situation, having frankly talked to the child. Most of teenagers with pleasure go for such contacts.
And the main thing – you love the child such what he is, and then at you everything will turn out.