The senior generation often takes part in education of children. On the one hand, it is good: both help to parents, and connection between generations. On the other hand, methods and ways of education sometimes cause bewilderment.
Pluses of grandmother's education
- Parents can quietly work and build career, knowing that the child is dressed, fed, is under supervision of the loved one.
- The senior generation has a wide life experience. They know how to manage with children.
- Grandmothers and grandfathers are not so exacting and strict as parents. Try to accept kids such as they are. Often praise. In this connection, at the child the positive self-assessment is formed.
- Communication with the senior generation forms basic moral and moral values at the kid.
- Grandmothers and grandfathers make a big contribution to education of grandchildren. Read books, tell fairy tales, go to circles, do with them homework.
Minuses of grandmother's education
- Views of education at parents and people of the senior generation often disperse. Also it turns out that all week the grandmother uses the methods, and during week-end mom and dad begin to re-educate. The child in this situation will suffer.
- The selfless love and permissiveness can result in uncontrollable behavior of the child.
- Grandmothers and grandfathers are very disturbing and hypochondriac. Also can limit inquisitiveness and activity of the kid. Because of it he can grow up dependent and passive.
- Old methods of care for the child in many respects became outdated. They were succeeded by modern "assistants" and gadgets (pampers, video nurses and so forth). It is heavy to senior generation to get used to it.
- Often, modern grandmothers are not old women who want to devote all the remained life to grandchildren. They work, have many hobby and hobbies, and not always seek to help with children daily. Therefore try to compensate the rare attention overindulgence and gifts.
That pluses became more
If ways and methods of education disperse from grandmother's and grandfather's, you should not make a claim in a categorical form. Views of the senior generation – others and it is normal. Try to talk and explain quietly that main in education of the child – parents. Therefore their requirements should be considered. Develop the general approach. Tell what educational installations are not acceptable.
Do not set too many restrictions. It is important to grandmother to feel like "grandmother", to contribute to education of younger generation. Ask sometimes her council, not important, you will use it or not. It will be pleasant to her.
Express to grandmothers and grandfathers gratitude for the help. It is not their duty, but good will. Communicate with them validly. Never criticize at the child.
Let the senior generation will be your assistant, but not the rival.