The first love at teenagers, new, improbable impressions, romanticism. For parents, serious test. How to behave with the teenager in love?
Instruction
1. It is impossible to impose the direct bans on the relations between teenagers, in emotional subgrowth it will cause only the return reaction, attacks of anger and irritation, at such moments the teenagers are ready to go to the most unrestrained acts. Therefore constrain the emotions, it is possible just to talk, take an interest whether the help is necessary, tell the child that you always are near, are open for communication and are ready to give advice on any question.
2. Surely invite subject to lamentation of your child on a visit. Get acquainted, try to adjust communication. You should not inquire at children of a detail of their relations, plans for the future and to give a long lecture about responsibility, than you will put teenagers an awkward situation. Do not criticize, do not express to subgrowth the negative opinion on an object of his love, the child will be closed in himself and will not begin to bring up at you the subject of the relations.
3. Is not necessary in all ways to preserve the child against possible mistakes and shocks. The teenager enters adulthood and has to accumulate experience whatever it was. And the first love by definition is tragic therefore you should not sermonize long how everything can sadly end, and you as the loving parent, you try to save it from disappointment and pain. Understand that at all desire at you it will not turn out. Just be near, when necessary, give support, be able to listen to the child without excess comments.
4. Do not get into the relations of teenagers at all, do not try to set by the ears them even if you do not approve the choice of the child. Your task to approach the child, but not to push away him such behavior. You can only observe and wait when the teenager himself to address you for a practical advice, for the help. Sincerely sympathize and worry together with the child, your participation, the best support for the teenager.
5. If between teenagers there are conflict situations and the child cannot find any peace, it is possible to explain tactfully that the first love it is very rare to last all life and it only began his acquaintances to an opposite sex. In the future it is expected still by the sea of new impressions, bright experiences and interesting people. Life very long piece cannot also be foreseen that waits for you ahead.