At the words "happy childhood" before eyes there is an image of a full-fledged close-knit family where mom bakes tasty pies, and dad goes fishing with the child or soccer. But not all were so lucky, and due to various reasons there are very many incomplete families. After the divorce children are more often raised by mother, and the father, at best, communicates with them on weekends. How it is correct to bring up the kid if he lives in incomplete family?
Instruction
1. If you left the child's father to the birth of the kid or when that was still a baby, do not invent stories about the died pilot hero. When the father suddenly revives" and will decide to communicate to the child, the kid will understand that you deceived him, and will cease to trust you.
2. Do not indulge all children's whims, trying to compensate a lack of fatherly love thus. There is a danger to grow up the child the egoist who is not noticing interests and needs of people around.
3. Do not go into other extremes, excessively strictly bringing up the kid, thinking that without rigid male hand he absolutely will get spoiled. Be so kind as are also fair, children need care and support, but not constant cavils and criticism. Excessively strict requirements to the child can lead to the conflict and a protest from its party, in everything the reasonable measure is necessary.
4. Whatever painful your divorce was, do not interfere with communication of the child with the father. Allow them to meet at least several times a week, the father in life of the kid plays not less important role, than mom. Have patience, tranquility and wellbeing of the child are more important than mutual offenses and hostility.
5. Surely talk to the kid. It is very good if at a conversation there are both parents. Convince the child that you love him at all less, than earlier in spite of the fact that now you live separately with his dad.
6. If the former spouse does not want to communicate with the kid at all, do not splash out the personal problems on the child and do not incite him against the father, saying what dad the villain and the rascal. Tell the child that such situation developed because dad cannot or does not want to arrive differently, and it is necessary to accept it and to try not to blame the father. Do not promise that dad will surely return. Do not give false hopes, the kid will constantly wait for the father and to exhaust you infinite inquiries.
7. Be tactful and patient, sometimes education of the child in incomplete family where the love and mutual understanding reign, can be very fruitful.