Until recently the child was appeasable and obedient, and now not to recognize him. The continuous whims which are quite often developing into the whole hysterics happen not only houses, but also on the street, on a visit, in shop. Parents are lost, without knowing how to arrive.
Instruction
1. The first whims as an inevitable stage of growing of the kid, appear at it approximately in two years. Remember that formation of character of the child, so, his future in many respects depends on a way which you will choose for fight against whims.
2. First of all, try to find out the whim reason. The main reasons – four. The first – the kid badly feels. Something hurts the baby, but he cannot complain of pain because he does not understand yet how to explain it. In this case talk to the baby and try to find out what happens to him. Perhaps, the child needs the help of the doctor.
3. The second reason consists in desire to draw to itself attention which is not enough for the kid. A different way to make it it just does not know yet. Even if at you it is full of another matters, and the kid several times in the course of the day is capricious, talk to him. For the child very important that you heard him. You will see how his hysterics will come to naught because the baby will understand that you love him. Never you call the child "disobedient" or "bad". You only aggravate with it a situation. The baby needs from you love, but not reproaches.
4. The third reason of whims – blackmail. The child understood that a loud roar and tears from parents it is possible to achieve much, and began to use this knowledge actively. Do not take offense at the kid, you are guilty of it, in time without having shown hardness, began to indulge the child in everything. But you remember that hardness is not frequent punishments and the categorical bans, but a conversation with the kid "heart-to-heart". Without shout, quietly explain to the child that you did not allow it to get on the high hill only because from it it is possible to fall and painfully to hit, but not because you do not want that to it it was cheerful. To keep the baby from rough manifestations of feelings in shop, in advance discuss with it conditions. For example: "We go in shop for milk and bread, any more this time we will not buy anything. I know, you are upset. Promise that you will not cry more".
5. The fourth reason – excessive parental guardianship. Remember that deprivation of the child of independence in most cases also is the main reason of children's whims. Do not dictate constantly to the child how to behave: "Do not touch a dirty cat!", do not climb in a pool!", etc. Of course, you act for the best, but the kid does not understand the ban reason, you explain nothing. It becomes very offensive for the baby and he shows resistance. Do not break an independence core in the baby, having made it weak-willed and weak. Do not forbid the kid everything. Give him the chance to find own experience, having filled couple of cones. When you forbid the child that really it is impossible (it is life-threatening also health), accurately explain the ban reason.
6. If the kid does not wish to listen to any explanations, goes obstinate, insisting on the, do not make concessions and show severity. When you see that the baby just about will suit a hysterics, distract him as soon as possible: try to switch its attention, to tell something interesting, to play with it. Tell the child as you are upset by his whims. Do not fight against them all the adult authority at all not to cripple mentality of the kid. Remembering that whims – an inevitable stage of your development of the baby, find to them the correct approach.