Appearance of the child and everything that is connected with his growth and education, – not only the happiest stage, but a source of a stress, confusion before new circumstances. Meeting difficulties, parents ask a question whether so tremblingly they love the child as it is conceived by the nature and is proclaimed society.
Instruction
1. The ability to feel love for the child depends on some conditions. It and the favorable atmosphere in which grew and was brought up you, and lack of conflict situations with the spouse and other family members, and a condition of physical and mental health. If some of these circumstances is adverse, it is necessary to take care to neutralize or reduce negative impact on an emotional state.
2. Tactile feelings - embraces, strokings, kisses are necessary for good emotional health. Do not neglect an opportunity once again to take the child on hands, to press tenderly to themselves. Thereby start and you will support exchange of signs of mutual acceptance, giving and receiving in reply heat and positive emotions.
3. The need for love, for accessory, necessity to another, - one of fundamental human wants. Nobody so needs you as the child in whose life you are the most significant or one of the most significant people. Understanding of this fact is capable to give forces and inspiration, promotes personal growth, helps to realize potential opportunities and abilities. Be grateful to the child for what promotes disclosure of your potential.
4. From the earliest age of the child it is necessary to spend time with it not only in cares, but also to have a rest, good time: to listen to favourite music, to make walks and trips. Further to select movies and books which will be interesting to both for joint viewing and reading, to cultivate to the child interest in a hobby. Then the child will become the good companion for carrying out leisure, the pleasant interlocutor, the partner in games that is incredibly valuable.
5. Grant to yourself the right for a mistake, do not accuse yourself and the child if something in the relations went not so smoothly. If you cannot cope with problems, try to receive the help from experts or more skilled relatives. Farewell misses of yourself and to the child, do not make the life miserable sense of guilt. Paraphrasing the known aphorism: you want to be the loving parent – be him.