You are the loving parents, and appearance of one more child in family – huge joy for you. However, this wonderful event is often connected also with concern, from such phenomenon as jealousy from the first child nobody is insured.
Instruction
1. First of all, when planning the second pregnancy it is necessary to pay special attention to psychological state of your first child. You should not forget that future kid can turn in his eyes into a peculiar rival that, certainly, will create problems to you and your children. The most important is to prepare the firstborn for appearance of the brother or little sister in advance. It is very important. Such gradual succession of events will allow the senior child to feel more surely.
2. Tell the child about the forthcoming addition in your family, having designated time frames. If the child still small, then try to associate this date with any holiday, arrival of summer or winter … It will allow the kid to be guided more accurately in time. Focus attention that future brother or the sister will be very little, defenseless, will need care and love. Let the firstborn will feel that his participation in care of the kid, in all forthcoming events is very important for you.
3. One more good reception is evening of family memoirs. In a cozy, quiet situation look with the child at old photos or video where he was still absolutely a baby. Tell him about how you cared for it. Explain that the same will be necessary also for your second child.
4. If you are already pregnant, take the child on ultrasonography. It will allow it "to get acquainted" with the new family member long before his birth. Such reception will let know to your child that the forthcoming addition is inevitable, he will quickly get used to this thought and will look forward the brother or the little sister together with you.
5. At the end of pregnancy ask the senior child to help to prepare the room for future kid. Let he will choose something independently, for example wall-paper, a carriage or a bed. The child has to feel that you listen to his opinion that its participation is necessary.
6. Consider that with the advent of the kid you should find for him a lot of time, perhaps, even to the detriment of the firstborn. Talk to it about it in advance. Discuss everything to the smallest details that your child did not feel discomfort in the future. Otherwise he can feel thrown and unfortunate that will lead to a depression, whims or even to aggression manifestation. Together with the firstborn correct a day regimen in advance, everything has to occur gradually.
7. If someone from your acquaintances has absolutely small children, allow the senior child to get acquainted with them. Suggest it to take for a drive a carriage or to sing to the baby a song. Track behavior of the firstborn, it will give you an idea of as far as you could prepare it for appearance of the new family member.