From generation to generation parents ask the same question: "How to raise good children?" Someone considers that the good child – obedient, resignedly following all instructions of the father or mother. For someone the most important in education is that children studied well. There are also such parents who too literally take a saying "A sound mind in a sound body", nearly by force accustoming the child to sport. Where truth?
Instruction
1. First of all the father and mother need to understand simple, but very important truth. Your child – not your property. He is obliged by much to you, but from this it is not necessary that you have the right constantly to solve everything for it, to demand from it humility. Do not abuse the parental power! Respect the child as the personality. Allow it to show an initiative, but, of course, reasonably. Otherwise you risk or to grow up the shy, infantile person, or to harden the child, to incite him against yourself.
2. Be in all example for the child. Remember that the growing-up little person as if a sponge absorbs everything that sees and hears. Create the atmosphere of love, mutual respect, goodwill in the house. Even if you were tired or are angry, do not break on the relatives. Let's assume, parents explain to the child that it is always necessary to be polite, it is good to behave. Whether will be to sense from their correct words much if after that the husband shouts at the wife, or the wife will begin to grumble, reproaching the spouse for some oversight? The effect will be opposite: the kid will draw a conclusion that adults cannot be trusted.
3. Other parents are so obsessed with desire to grow up from the son or the daughter of future Nobel laureate that school days become the real penal servitude for the child. Demand only excellent estimates from it in all objects. Certainly, it is necessary to watch progress of the child at school, but it is impossible to turn study into fixed idea. If the son or the daughter is obviously not given any subject, do not do from this the tragedy. So you only provoke to the child disgust for study.
4. Since early years accustom the kid to work, giving it feasible instructions. In every possible way encourage its initiative, you praise: "What you at me the skillful assistant!" Avoid categorical, mandative tone, instead emphasize that its work is important and useful, it helped tired and busy parents.
5. Do not impose to the child of the tastes, hobbies. Let will decide itself that it is interesting to him, than he wants to be engaged in non-study time. Of course, you can prompt, convince, but it is better if the final choice remains for the child.
6. In a word, if you want to raise good children, behave in strict accordance with a bible precept: "treat other people as you would like that they treated you".