The identity of the person is formed since the birth under the influence of a surrounding situation. As a rule, the child copies the main part of the principles, habits and templates of behavior from the parents who are for it not only an example for imitation, but also the main authority.
Maturing, the child begins to interact with other people. He has already not enough opinion of parents, to it it is important that people around think of its appearance, character and, in particular, of abilities and shortcomings.
Children sharply react to someone's negative reaction in relation to themselves. The strict criticism and condemnation can engender complexes which it will be difficult for it to overcome independently in the child.
Many complexes since childhood remove also to adulthood therefore it is important to avoid emergence of similar complexes or to try to get rid of them if they already appeared.
Concerning outer defects children are ruthless. The fact that it seems to them ugly wrong – the same hour is derided.
The child needs to inspire that any part of a body, kind of it did not look, serves the person for performance of certain functions, but it is not given it only for appearance. Hands – take something, touch, perform work. Without legs of people will not be able to go, jump, run, and without eyes - to see. It is also necessary to teach the child to react correctly to attacks, to answer quietly and surely, having prepared previously several phrases.
The attention can be distracted from external shortcomings by means of clothes and accessories – things are of considerable value for children, especially, when they wish them, but have no opportunity to catch.
It is possible to deserve respect of peers also in other ways. Well developed speech, ability to independently think and do something is better than others always allocates the child and does not allow it to turn into the derelict. Parents have to be attentive to the child to manage to help him at the right time when it faces any problems.