How to raise the son
Education – very responsible work demanding from adults of patience, knowledge, ability to find approach to children. Except the general principles, there are also features in work with boys and girls. Parents need to consider these subtleties in education at each stage of development of the child to grow up the full member of society.
1. At education of boys and girls from the birth of fundamental differences is not present. Babies learn equally the world around, babble, smile. Aged about one year the emotional connection with mom is very important for children. Dad, not to stand aside, it is necessary to pay to the kid as much as possible attention.
2. The developed stereotype that boys will be "mother's sonnies" if in relation to them excessive boundless tenderness, care and caress is shown, is wrong. A lot of love does not happen neither in relation to daughters, nor in relation to sons. The child has to feel your love for the correct mental development and formation of the positive relation to the world around. Do not feel sorry for emotions for a positive example of the attitude of dad towards mom. When the boy goes to kindergarten, there he gets the first experience in communication with representatives of an opposite sex. Your son will have no negative attitude to girls if he is brought up in family where the love, consent and mutual understanding reigns.
3. Approximately from 4 to 14 years there is a development of courage. If to this age the boys could play together with girls in hairdressing salon, the doctor, cafe, etc., now they prefer machines, weapon, construction of roads and similar "men's" games. At this age fathers come out on top for sons. Boys in everything try to imitate them: copy their manner of behavior, the speech. Dad needs to monitor strictly the behavior in the presence of the son. Mothers often from boys of this age can hear such answer to any request: "I am not a girl, I will not do it". That similar met less often, come into contact with the son. Talk to him on the subjects concerning him more often, ask about how there passed it day, show that to you his life is not indifferent that you respect its interests.
4. Pay attention to the son even then when it seems to you that he already grew up. The teenage age is that time when the boy becomes a young man. There are changes not only physical, but also mental. At this particular time the son needs so your attention. Do not turn away from it, be interested in his life, otherwise he will try to draw your attention with fights, bad behavior at school. Accurately divide what to love, it is possible to care and control life of your son and without excessive guardianship. The more you will forbid something to the child, to repeat the same lectures, the more he will oppose to them. But also the popustitelsky style of communication will not lead to anything good. Therefore find golden mean: be near, but at distance.
5. Estimate acts of the child objectively. If he is wrong, recognize it. Your son has to know when he does right thing, and when there is no. He will think differently that all is possible for it that mom or dad will come, and the situation will be exhausted. You praise when the child of it deserves, and sort mistakes when they are.
6. The child should not be afraid of the parents to obey, and to respect them. Do not abuse the son if he made any negative act. Quietly discuss a situation together that the child saw what he made incorrectly as he had to arrive and whether it is possible to correct an error. So the son will trust you and will consult. And it means that you will be aware of his life which comes far from your eyes.
7. Do not adhere to the principle "Boys do not cry". So you study to feel the child. The son can grow up the tough person to whom simple human emotions are not familiar at all. Besides, it is proved that the lack of manifestation of feelings can reduce life. What the person endures in each moment of life is saved, influencing nervous, and then and other systems of an organism.
8. The son in 18 years cannot be re-educated, you will see the end result of the work. Therefore do not feel sorry for time and forces for education of the child in the future to be proud of it.
Author: «MirrorInfo» Dream Team