Many children have fears concerning insects. If such fear is rather strong and already develops into a phobia, then it brings a lot of discomfort, to both the child, and his parents. Especially, if the child of spiders who meet in his life rather often is afraid.
Fear degree
To bowl of everything children are afraid only of live spiders when meet them on the street, for example. The most terrible for such children - to take a spider on hands. If the child is afraid to touch only spiders, then it is better not to pay attention to his such fear at all. Just quietly help the child to depart from a spider or move away him from the child's clothes. Your excessive emotional reaction in this case can support fear only. And here is how time it at you will study tranquility.
Following degree of fear: the child begins to shout or cry when he sees only a spider from far away. In this case you quite can independently work with the child to create at him the equal attitude towards this insect.
The greatest fear is expressed that the child is afraid even of the drawn spiders. In this case it is better to address the children's psychologist as in this case it is already about a phobia. If the fear of the child of spiders is so strong, it is required not just to save the child from a phobia, but to find out its reasons. Otherwise instead of fear of spiders there can be the same strong fear concerning something or someone another.
Formulate the purpose
To teach not to do something it is impossible. Before saving the child from fear of spiders, think that you want to receive in exchange. To what behavior do you want to teach the child? What relation do you want to create as a result? Formulate for yourself such purpose in a positive form, that is without application of a particle not. For example, "that the child was unaffected by spiders".
Do not appeal to reason of the child
The fear is an experience. And feelings are not always logical and explainable. The root of fears always is in the sphere of unconscious and does not give in to a reasonable explanation. Your arguments about safety of spiders can be very logical, but to the child they will not add courage at all. Therefore you should not struggle with fears of the child, just explaining him senselessness of his experiences. Time a root of a problem lies in unconscious, and it is necessary to influence this sphere.
Drawings and fairy tales
Unconscious does not know logic, but perfectly perceives images and symbols. Therefore and it is necessary to get rid of fears with their use. Drawings - the simplest and at the same time very effective mode of work with children's fears. Draw with your child as often as possible spiders. Compose plots about spiders and represent them on paper. Try to use bright paints in such drawings. To compose stories and fairy tales about spiders - too a good way to fall in love with them. The first option: to think out plots where the main character will safely behave concerning spiders. Such hero has to resemble your child, bear a name in consonance to it. So the child will subconsciously acquire possible options of behavior. Other version of fairy tales: the main character - a spider. In such fairy tales the spider surely has to be the positive character. Think out with whom he will be on friendly terms to whom and how to help, etc. Perhaps, you will find cartoons in which there are heroes spiders. But such heroes should not be negative. If in the animated film all characters are afraid of spiders, then hardly such plots will help the child to cope with his fears.
Fill the child's life with contacts with spiders
The child is afraid to take a spider - let will look at it from far away. Communicate to the child, examining an insect: whether this spider is similar to that whom you drew recently? And there can be it that spider about whom you invented a story? Suggest the child to buy in shop the bright beautiful book about insects where there will be head about spiders. Or find the qualitative interesting educational film about them. The more the child will see spiders, to talk about them, etc., the he will be quieter to treat them. You can always ask the psychologist for the help in overcoming children's fear of spiders if you feel that you do not cope by own efforts.