In life practically of any person there are questions whether to speak to the child about death of close. If to say, then how and when? What to be at loss for words not to injure children's mentality?
Psychologists consider unambiguously what should be spoken. If to try to hide it, then sooner or later the child all the same recognizes from someone another or will guess, and it will be minus in the relations with parents. The child cannot be deceived, otherwise the trust to parents will be lost. And then children very much feel a condition of adults. And if the adult endures loss, then the child understands that something occurs, and begins to be nervous from the fact that he cannot understand the reason.
It is necessary to report to the child about death as soon as possible. The child up to 7 years cannot understand in full yet that death it forever. And children are not able to worry so long and deeply as adults. Therefore they will accept news with the children's concept of the world. Once the child explains what is death. What will be this explanation, depends on adults. From their own idea of death (atheistic or religious). Information should be given it is dosed, and here if there are questions, then to try as it is possible to answer more precisely and more well them. Also it is worth to remember that if the child asks nothing, then it does not mean that he does not worry. Just he tries to enclose in the consciousness a concept, new to it, – death.
And whether here it is necessary to take the child on a funeral is a controversial issue. There is no definite answer to it. In my opinion, it is better not to take the child, and to explain to him that only adults go to a funeral. And already later it is necessary to take the child at the cemetery and to show the place of burial. Also it is worth to remember that the child has the right for the experiences and emotions. Understand it. Give it the chance for expression of the feelings. Children study everything at adults. Therefore how the family will behave during experience of a grief, not only the behavior of the child at this moment, but also its relation to a grief in adulthood depends. If adults pretend that nothing terrible occurred, then such behavior will be acquired in this situation by the child and if adults on the contrary worry very intensively, then the child can be frightened and quite so will behave further. Therefore it is not necessary to hesitate to speak to the child about the experiences and to show the grief, only you should not focus on it attention of the child constantly. Life goes on, it is also necessary to get it together and to live further. Adults are responsible not only for themselves, but also for happy life of the child.