If morning scandals and hysterics at the child on a threshold of kindergarten became your daily ritual, find the reason of such behavior. The refusal of visit of kindergarten can be caused by the whole list of problems.
Let's begin with the simplest: age of the child. Psychologists advise to send the child to a garden in 4 years. In three it is still very attached to mom. In five already got used to the settled life deal without garden. If circumstances drive you for work, try that the kid already had an idea of stay in children's collective – attended the developing classes or group of incomplete day.
The first one or two months morning hysterics at the child norm. But if further any changes – it is time to look for the reason of such resistant dislike. At first talk to the tutor. Find out how the child behaves in group during the day. If after your leaving the tears at it instantly dry, so it is just manipulation for mother's attention, it is no more. But if the child does not play with peers, sits aside, does not eat, sleeps badly, is in dejectedness - it is already an occasion to understand the reasons of such behavior.
Find out from the tutor whether your child has conflicts with peers. Sometimes one fight is enough to spoil mood for a long time. Besides consult to the tutor how to get out of this situation. Perhaps, you should have a talk in a tripartite order and the conflict will be exhausted.
At some children the dislike for kindergarten is based on violent attempts to feed the child. If the kid has problems in food behavior, inform the nurse and the tutor. Agree that the child himself will solve, to eat to him or not and it is not necessary to spoon-feed him. Houses you feed with a breakfast and take away from a garden a bit earlier that he did not go all day hungry.
Play with the child kindergarten of the house. Seat dolls and animals and simulate a situation. Reaction of your child to it will also be an indicator that really happens in group. Pay attention what new words were brought by your kid from a garden. If the speech began to abound with expressional vocabulary – "silly woman", stupid" and so forth, there is an occasion to look at the tutor's attitude towards children. For a start have a talk with other mothers whether they noticed similar behavior at the children. If your suspicions are confirmed, do not hesitate to approach the tutor and to ask directly who so says from children. You monitor reaction of the tutor and nurse. Whether they will leave from the answer or to laugh the matter off. In this case you descend to the manager and state for a start in an oral form the claims. You have for this purpose all rights. Usually such measure is enough that after the led discussion the personnel changed the relation, at least for a while.
Whether there are "nesadovsky" children? Yes, happen. Not all it is comfortable in big collective, with unfamiliar adults. Some children have a stress from each campaign in a toilet, disguise, a joint dream in the bedroom. In this case parents should think: and whether so we need kindergarten? Can with the grandmother or the nurse at home it will be better. If mom has to come to work, it is possible to look for option of stay in a garden incomplete day to a dream. The contribution of kindergarten to socialization of the child is strongly exaggerated. And here by the number of the acquired nervous breakdowns he is a champion.