"My child has no friends at all. Tried to invite schoolmates on a visit, to arrange birthdays, but it did not help. I am afraid whether it will influence development of the child. Because of it not only the child, but also I suffers. I break on him for it, and then I am sorry. What to do how to be?"
The one who is concerned by the fact that the son (daughter) cannot find to himself friends is right. In what the reason of loneliness is and how to help the child? Certainly, in human life an important role is played by communication with people. Without society we anything. Do you remember the tale of Mowgli? When there is no communication, there is no development. Therefore parents need to turn on this factor into lives of the child special attention.
The parent is the chief assistant
The parent is the first and only teacher who can teach life and the attitude towards her better than any school. On the example of the mothers and fathers children learn to communicate with people, to find with them contact, to settle the conflicts. If adults have no close friends, talk among themselves and the child a little, then he will accept for himself the same communicative model sooner or later. But who wants that his child grew up the pacifist and avoided people?
Though the absence of friends can be also for other reason even if parents have a lot of the friends, and in the house guests are constantly pounded. Happens that at the child just it is impossible to find a common language with peers. In this case the parent can develop skills of communication in the child.
To be tolerant and wise
No theories, the constant exhausting talk with the kid that he needs to find friends will result in the necessary result. This dense ring in which mummies of the children often conclude often is the reason of loneliness their krovinok. You should not grab constantly heart, to sigh and gasp, impose the concerns in an occasion and without. Excessive concern in failures of the child in communication with peers give rise in it to constraint, complexes. The trembling mom who constantly presses and constantly asks whether it found friends, is capable to close the little man even more. Psychologists most often advise parents to release a situation and not to panic, not to load the child the gloomy thoughts. The children's mentality which is not created yet demands gentle, intelligent approach. It is better to work measuredly and not to seek to catch by all means though any friends.
To work and be consecutive
The main task of parents is to help the child to overcome all difficulties. Not to throw on an arbitrariness, and to be near and to push softly, unostentatiously to actions. To allow it practice of communication – to bring a certain way to the yard, to the street playground. The parent has to show on the example how it is necessary to communicate and that it is healthy! Communicate with other mummies, enter dialogues with the children playing nearby. Never you should order to the child, type: "Wons the girl in a sandbox sits, go play with it". It is necessary to go to a sandbox together. Parents have to help to communicate with other children by means of simple questions, to teach to change with children toys, to allow to play the machines and dolls another. But you should not be constantly above the child and to control all his actions. Hyper guardianship to anything. Such children near whom constantly curl as kites, parents, usually dislike. And to the child eternally controlling mother does not allow to relax and strike up acquaintance.
Not to be overzealous
In the aspiration to find to the child of friends many parents forget that in friendship main not quantity, but quality. Therefore you should not impose to the offspring certain children. If potential "friend" is not pleasant to him, do not insist on further communication. As they say, love cannot be ordered. Track the one which of peers attracts it most of all. Also encourage all its contacts, even fleeting.
To develop comprehensively
The general occupation unites people, all this is known. Proceeding from it, parents are recommended to define the meek creature in the circle or any sport assuming team game. Classes where everyone for themselves, will not approach here. Soccer, volleyball or, for example, pair figure skating – optimum sports. Generally, the main thing is to diversify leisure of the child and not to limit his communication only by adults.
To make out the introvert in the child
Happens so that the child does not worry at all from the fact that he has no close friends. Does not bring him discomfort lack of those. If he behaves quietly and everything is pleasant to him, he does not complain of lack of communication, so everything is all right. Means, your child is so suited, to him it is good also without constant communication. In this case it is worth talking to the psychologist. Perhaps, your kid - the introvert. To him it is good with itself, it is interesting to sit in front of the computer, the TV, to read the book. Then the task of parents is to watch that the child did not become reserved.