Success of the person depends not only at most his character and vital luck. In many affairs the defining factor is our relationship with people around. In particular it is our communicative abilities, and from as far as they are developed, the success of the person in work and other various areas of life depends. Formation of communicative abilities at the person begins almost with the birth. The earlier the child will learn to speak, the his interaction with people around will be simpler. Communicative abilities of the personality at each person are formed individually. The influencing factors is relationship with parents, peers, later with the management and fellow workers here and also own social role of the person in society.
Development of communicative abilities
If being a child of people did not get due support from relatives, and could not gain experience of communication, he can grow up closed and diffident. It means that its communicative abilities of communication will be at a low level. An exit from this situation is development of skills of communication and behavior in society. Before understanding how to develop in itself these data, it is necessary to know what they consist of. The structure of communicative abilities includes the following types:
- information and communicative. Ability to begin, to support and finish a conversation and also to draw attention of the interlocutor, to use verbal and nonverbal means of communication;
- affective and communicative. And the respect and responsiveness for the interlocutor is correct to react, show ability to notice an emotional condition of the partner on it;
- regulatory and communicative. Ability to help the partner with a conversation and to accept the help from others, to be able to solve the conflicts, using adequate methods.
How to develop communicative abilities?
If your communicative abilities and qualities of the personality are alarming at you, you should not be upset. They can be developed at any age. It is enough to remember of the most convenient and the exercises accepted for you for development of communicative abilities. They will help to learn to smooth the conflicts, to develop the convincing speech, to gain skills of the effective self-presentation and to increase trust. For achievement of bigger efficiency to practise in ability to build communication it is possible to carry out in the company of friends and relatives. To understand how to develop communicative abilities we will give several examples.
- Exercise ""Mimicry and pantomimika"". Helps to keep emotional self-control in any situation and also to learn correctly to transfer to the interlocutor the experiences. Task: to rise at home in front of the mirror and to show anger, nervousness, irony, laughter etc.
- Exercise ""Desire"". Helps to fulfill communicative skills. Each person writes to the companies on a leaf the desire. Task: to force the partner it to execute, without speaking about the desire words, then to show what is written on a leaf.
- Exercise "Leave a shell". Helps to find skills of belief. The person having low communicative abilities gets up in the middle of the room in the outlined circle. A task of companions to entice it from this circle, using various arguments for belief. For example, to bargain, offer or promise something in exchange. Exercise can be shot with the video camera, and then to understand as the person in a circle and also what technicians and receptions of belief were used behaved.
- Exercise "Questions of songs". Helps to find skills of self-expression. The company is divided into two groups. A task of both groups to communicate only in the form of songs. For example, one company asks the song a question: "I asked an ash-tree where my darling?". The second group answers "Somewhere in the world where always a frost". On considering of each question no more than 30 seconds are given.
Communicative abilities and abilities it is possible to develop in itself all life. For this purpose it is necessary just to aim to become the ideal interlocutor and to train constantly the skills. The main thing not to perfect the skill on business partners. Let the friends ready to help you will be better it and to support in your desire to be to interesting other people.
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