Quite often we are tormented by a thought that we are not really kontaktna, we have problems in human relations. Now the skill to communicate is considered one of the major merits. In that case we ask a question how to learn to love people, believing that our problem also consists in it. But whether so it?
Unsociability
The skill to communicate is the natural property inherent in people of a certain temperament, usually sanguine persons but happens, as to choleric persons. As for melancholiacs and phlegmatic persons, this quality is not peculiar to them at all, but it does not mean at all that they do not love people. If you hammered understand that you do not like to communicate with people, then, perhaps, you are simply unsociable at heart. It is necessary to admit this fact and not to try to break the nature: to anything good it led nobody yet!
If you nevertheless have to communicate much with someone, try to give the floor to the interlocutor, and only nod and assent, trying to understand and sympathize.
Misanthropy
Quite another matter, if your problem that you do not love many people. If you are more than 25 years old and less than 70, then it and really a problem. If you are younger, then just did not accumulate still life experience to understand the neighbor, it will come a bit later. If is more senior – nerves were already loosened. In all other cases it is necessary to do something. Stop to impose on people increased requirements, leave them for yourself (and better throw out!), remember more often, as someone loves this person. If you the believing person, remind yourself that the God's image is in any, even in this person.
Saint Seraphim of Sarov addressed all whom he saw "my joy". It not because he was not perspicacious and did not know that for a reptile came to it. Just he saw also the best in the person. And good in each of us by all means is!
Loyalty
Means, having thought how to begin to love people, begin with yourself. Impartially consider yourself as individual and recognize what in you is good and very good, and is bad and very bad. Also and in others. Fall in love with yourself with all the discrepancy and forgive to people around their imperfection. Then you will be able to treat people loyally, and over time and to fall in love with them.
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