The divorce is a serious tragedy in life of each family. The divorce for children becomes the real trouble. For the child at whom the system of values and idea of love is only formed it is the real crash, a serious psychological trauma. The child is frightened, he is angry and does not understand at all how he will live further.
Substantially resistance to stress and psychological flexibility of the child depend on his age. Most painfully children up to 6 years since a basis of their healthy psychoemotional development during this period is stability and confidence endure family breakdown.
- Kids up to 1.5 years, naturally, do not realize yet what occurs, but the nervousness and irascibility of parents is transferred also to them. They become more whining, irritable, at them the sleep can be interrupted. The kid will be helped by the maximum observance of its habitual day regimen. It is necessary to take as often as possible the child on hands, to press to itself, then he will be able to feel under protection.
- Aged from 1.5 up to 3 years children take changes in family life very hard. At this age the whole world for them is a family. Kind of parents explained to them, they cannot understand why there is no father or mother nearby any more. Often children become very nervous, there can be lags in development. That the child as it is possible coped with a situation easier, parents have to as well as earlier to take part in the child's life, keeping its habitual way as far as it is possible.
- The age group of children from 3 to 6 years cannot understand the true reasons of parting of parents yet. Those cases when children think that the divorce happened because of them are very tragic. The fear of darkness, an uneasy dream can pursue children. It will be easier for them if parents leave in the friendly relations, and will not stay in a long depression. Many parents make a serious mistake when begin to share the experiences with the son or the daughter or to break rage on children. Best of all for parents to visit the psychologist and to take away the child to the children's expert.
- Children are more senior, aged from 6 up to 11 years are already capable to understand the reasons and point of a divorce of parents. At this age of the child begin to be afraid to lose close people, to remain some. They believe that they are capable to help parents to become family again, can take for this purpose some actions. At this time parents should improve among themselves the friendly relations, to exclude quarrels and mutual recriminations in presence of children. Each of parents has to spend as much as possible all the time with children, be interested in their thoughts and feelings, to walk with them. It is useful to organize pleasure trips and new joint hobbies.
Whatever relations developed at parents, the main thing if they already have children, first of all to think of them. Children are definitely not guilty of what occurs between adults.