Parting never is to the loved one easy for anybody. Regardless of whether you leave or leave you – it is difficult. But the one who makes the choice has certain advantages. It has all the time to consider, be prepared. In its forces to make the leaving less painful. Perhaps, you will not be able to make it so that not to hurt another, but depends on you, how honestly and honestly you arrive.
It is required to you
- Confidence in own decision
Instruction
1. Consider still time. Write why you make this decision. Wonder why you entered these relations why you chose personalized this person? What changed for you? Whether really you want to leave or it is your way to let know to another that it has to change? If you are firmly sure that these relations have no future – prepare for a gap. If you are in a situation when the partner physically or emotionally suppresses you, you should not give vent to feelings. If you it is in danger, it is necessary to run immediately, but not to leave.
2. Make a number of important decisions concerning your personal future. Whether you are ready to cope with financial side of a situation or you continue to count on the partner? To you is where to live or you know where your partner, after a gap can move? Do you haveDo you haveDo you have joint obligations and how you are going to divide this responsibility?
3. Whether there is someone who will be able to support your partner at this moment? If you are afraid that the one whom you throw can do harm to himself destructive behavior, perhaps, it is worth taking care of that someone close was to it near? You should not discuss your decision with someone from his friends before you talk to the partner, but there is a sense to ask someone to arrive or call after your conversation.
4. Be adjusted on a conversation face to face. Be going to answer numerous "why?". If you are afraid that emotions "will overflow" you, state the arguments in writing, but do not send them by e-mail at all! Do not accuse the partner of how everything developed. You speak about your relations, but not about the one who good and who – bad. Tell about your feelings, tell that to you it is sick and bitter too, but this necessary decision in order that both of you were happy. Tell former that you do not bear it the malice and you want at it everything to develop well.
5. Provide to the partner your plan of the termination of the relations. Show it that everything was considered, but do not forget that it has a right to vote on the questions concerning the social party of your relations too. Come to the agreement.
6. Do not "run away" from the partner, but also do not give him hope. Be benevolent and correct, but do not allow to cause in you sense of guilt or excessive responsibility. Perhaps, you will manage to keep the friendly relations, but it will demand efforts on both sides. Be ready that your partner will not want "to remain friends". You made the decision, it has a right to accept the.