Unfortunately, the relations in family can not always smoothly develop. Sometimes one of spouses tries to ego-trip at the expense of another and tries to humiliate his human dignity. It is impossible to become reserved and to take offense silently. Such attempts need to be stopped at once. It is possible to respond adequately to the sounded insult. Use techniques which are offered by psychologists.
Instruction
1. One of effective ways correctly to answer and it is adequately possible to call "That case". It is that your offender calls your any shortcoming and on its background tries to extol itself(himself). Decline in quality of result of actions of the offender which can be begun with the words "It Will Be That Case …" will be the worthy answer to it. So, for example, on a remark: "You remember nothing at all. I should most pack your suitcase to the road", you can answer with a phrase: "It will be that case when I have to go with an empty suitcase".
2. You can use also other possible answer which it is possible to call "Associative analogy". When, wishing to offend you, the person tries to beat some characteristic of appearance and gives you definition, emphasizing it, compare the offender to an object which appears and makes the actions depending on it, given you, definitions. So, when someone from public compared quite full fabulist I.A. Krylov to a big cloud, Ivan Andreevich parried: "I hear that how frogs raskvakatsya".
3. Too it is possible to answer obviously undeserved criticism so that at your opponent the desire to offend you will be gone at once. For example, you created some thing, prepared a dish which, in your opinion, meets with approval. Instead you hear condemnation and criticism. Use reception "By contradiction". Instead of the expected reaction show pleasure and explain it with the fact that the negative assessment given you by the interlocutor means that the others will assess your creation positively. Tell: "I am very glad! If it was not pleasant to you – means, it is a worthy thing, and it precisely will be pleasant to all rest!".
4. The elementary, on very effective reception which can be used to answer adequately is called "Mirror". Apply it when you hear direct insult. In this case reflect this word and beat a remark as the characteristic given by the person to itself. Having heard: "Numskull!", it is possible to tell: "You should not be such self-critical, you still have a hope to grow wiser".