The woman who got into a situation when the man raises a hand against it often does not know what to it to undertake. How in that case it is necessary to arrive and whether it is worth forgiving such behavior?
Instruction
1. If the husband began to sort out the relations, raising against you a hand, first of all ask yourself a question: and why to you such man. If it happened once, then further such cases will turn into an everyday occurrence. And you married the loving and gentle person.
2. Do not try to find justification to its acts. Even if it has disorders at work or problems with health, or other reasons now. Raising against you a hand, he shows the weakness or maybe mental instability. Why such husband and such father of family is necessary?
3. Try to make the plan of the further actions. Of course, if there is an opportunity to collect suitcases and to leave this area or the city, it is a quite good exit. But do not draw hasty conclusions. Think whether you will be able to find normal housing to children and decent work there. Perhaps, you should not run to mother at once. If you hold a good position and have quite good salary, perhaps, the best option will be to move to the rental apartment so far not to lose the place and not to break children from occupations.
4. After beating surely address to policlinic and record a beating. The reference will be the supporting document for fight against the husband.
5. At once file for a divorce and for alimony. Until case is solved in court, discuss with the husband (better at witnesses) a question of the partition of the apartment and property.
6. If at the moment you have no stable income, and the husband continues to scoff, take away the child and you go to the center of the help to the women suffering from violence in family. Now such centers are open practically in everyone, even the town. There you some time will be able to live, recover from a stress, to receive the qualified help of the lawyer and psychologist. During this time you will manage suit the child in a garden, and most to find work.
7. You remember: if the man raised a hand against you once, he will surely repeat it still. Therefore do not forgive him and do not convince yourself that it will not repeat. You do not need such husband, and to children – such father. You do not reproach yourself that you deprive of them full-fledged family. Looking at such abnormal relations, children will not be able to be happy. Respect yourself and throw such man.