Most of men, trying to reconcile, pretend that the quarrel as though was not. But it is necessary to realize that the conflict was and demands permission accurately. It is the major moment in the relations of the man and woman who as a result either parts them, or helps to understand as far as they are necessary each other, how validly and carefully it is necessary to treat feelings of the partner.
Instruction
1. Probe the soil. Experiences concerning a quarrel or even break in relations can call the beginning of a possible conciliatory conversation into question. Therefore communicate to close friends and acquaintances of your girlfriend that as it is possible to find out more precisely in what mood there is your girl.
2. If you really understand that it is expensive to you, then let know also to it that you intend to reconcile and improve the relations. If the meeting, phone call, SMS correspondence are impossible, be not slow to address the third party to whom you trust as yourself. Write the letter or a note. Try to write sincerely and not strongly worry if suddenly you make any spelling errors. Important here another: you try to keep your feelings and to return mutual understanding.
3. Be persistent. Often offended girls very long do not make contact even if they are ready to forgive. Beginning a difficult conciliatory conversation, let's splash out to the girlfriend the collected offense and anger. You do not pronounce a word, she will not speak yet. Choose a position of the most gallant listener and finish an accusatory tirade of your girlfriend with the well thought over and accurately said conciliatory phrase.
4. Do not hope that you receive forgiveness at once. But use by all available means to reconcile. Ancient and very effective way is reminiscence of the former relations. Remind the girlfriend as to you it was cheerful and good together. Consider that lately she was engaged in the return: proved to herself that your relations are finished. Be ready that it is necessary to develop this process back.
5. Achieve her smile instead of smiles and ironic remarks. Of course, the smile does not promise free pardon, but it not so a little. It is a high time to begin to surprise the girlfriend. Prove to her that are capable to grant any her desire, of course, within limits. Puzzle the girlfriend with unexpected surprises and gifts, let to it know how you were upset with the happened quarrel, tell it about the experiences and thoughts. She surely will understand and will feel that in your relations there were changes to the best.
6. Call to the aid jealousy. Of course, it is not the most successful way, but sometimes and it works. Communicate to the nice girl. Set for yourself the task – to kindle jealousy and the owner's instinct in the girlfriend, but it is no more not to put it a psychological trauma and to finally spoil a situation. Of course, hard explanations are coming after that, but, at least, your conversation will take place.