In the relations and in darling of the woman are dissolved completely and forget about themselves. They make the mass of mistakes, losing self-esteem. Over time they already cease to feel favourite and happy. Psychologists make recommendations how to behave with the man to be happy and not to lose themselves in the relations.
Flirt, but it is moderate. To find the half, you do not go too far in flirtation. Otherwise you can simply get "love for one night". The phone number for you, maybe, will also be asked in the morning, but will call by it hardly. Concentrate better the charm and a charm concerning the one who really is pleasant to you, but even in this case it is necessary to get acquainted at first closer, and then already to pass to close relations. If the guy does not want to wait, then learn to speak "no", otherwise from your self-esteem nothing will remain.
You are proud of the man whom you had to are near happiness, but nevertheless do not forget also about yourself. You have to be a personality too, and it is reached by creation of own life, achievement of the personal vital purposes. The love for the man is only a part of his world, and for women – the whole Space. But it is necessary to study at the darling, and then you will become for him the full-fledged partner on life which he will infinitely appreciate.
You carried out with the guy of 4-5 nights and already gather to him with suitcases or suggest it to move to you. Think once again before deciding on it. And what if it is not love? It can turn out that it too easily will get you, and the man will relax, you can become uninteresting to it. If take a detached view of your relations, then look back in the love not to do mistakes.
Do not confuse passion with love. Though your partner gives you pleasures of which you dreamed long ago, can quite happen that she marries another. He instinctively feels that the sexual dependence will be the worst prerequisite for marriage. The harmony in the relations has to begin with the head then in a bed everything will get better by itself.
The big mistake is to try to attach darling to itself by means of the child. Your guy wants to study still, to reach some height in the career, and you do not want to wait, and to marry and give birth to children right now. If you become pregnant cunning, then instead of love of the man you receive his hatred. Only unripe, stupid women can make such act.
The serious mistake is to be afraid of loneliness and not to leave the one who hurts you moral or physical. You more than once said to yourself that it is necessary to leave it, but he will present flowers, jewelry, will unexpectedly fill up with compliments, and you thaw, thinking that he loves you and treats kindly. You think, and suddenly and it will not be in your life if you leave it, you give yourselves to deceive, you try to inspire in yourself that he loves you most, time chose you and lives with you, is married to you. Just it such, you think. These thoughts are quite misleading! Bad relations already loneliness.
You married darling, but do not expect too much, do not think that a stamp in the passport – a guarantee of eternal happiness. In marriages there come crises, the romanticism is absorbed by everyday life. The only way to keep happiness with marriage and romanticism in the relations – to say with each other, to listen, ask, to actively build your relations, even being already in marriage.
If the man drinks and does not want to be treated, or treatment does not help. It is rigid, but it needs to be thrown. Everyone is responsible itself for the life, and you when you nurse it, deprive of it such opportunity. You thus cripple not only the, but also his life. The next mistake is to forgive to the beloved too much. When you were little, shouted and revolted if something was not on temper to you, and now, having become the adult woman, swallow any insult if only to hold the man at yourself if only did not throw. It is impossible to allow to speculate on your weakness – be protected. The love for you will not be lowered, and respect will be more. And you will love and respect yourself more. You want to be favourite – fall in love with yourself, you want that respected – begin to respect yourself.