According to experienced psychologists, the fear and love are mutually exclusive concepts. Therefore if you are afraid of the husband, in your relations there is a serious problem which needs to be solved by all means.
It is required to you
- - hobby;
- - work;
- - consultation of the psychologist;
- - conversation with the husband.
Instruction
1. Try to analyze objectively a situation, answer yourself questions: at what moment did you begin to feel fear in relation to the husband? How this fear and how often you feel it is strong? Whether you are afraid of the spouse always or only when you feel the guilt before him? Whether you love the husband? Whether your spouse loves you? Having comprehensively considered the problem, it will be simpler to you to plan ways of its decision.
2. Get rid of sense of guilt before the husband, raise a self-assessment. For this purpose you have to have personal interests and hobbies, it is not necessary to be dissolved completely in the spouse. Find an interesting hobby which will bring you pleasure, new friends with whom will pleasantly communicate.
3. If your husband somehow provokes your fear of it: shouts at you, threatens you, is engaged in manhandling, etc., you do not suffer such attitude towards yourself. Frankly talk to it about what is not pleasant to you in its attitude towards you. Perhaps, it is excessive control, jealousy, fault-finding, etc., accurately reason the request for that the spouse changed the behavior. If your husband does not trust you, try to find out why it occurs.
4. Consider that the aggressive behavior of the man often is sign of his diffidence, the internal complexes and fears tormenting him. Therefore the best decision in this situation is quiet conversation with the husband about all problems which are available for you.
5. Keep in mind that the spouse tyrant – not the best option for normal family life, quite justified exit from such situation can become your divorce with it. If your husband abuses the power over you, ego-trips at the expense of you, without any regrets leave him. You should not cling to defects which does not bring you happiness and is a serious problem.
6. If the divorce is not in your plans, try to become financially independent of the husband, especially if he reproaches you with money. If you have no professional education, end any courses, for example, on landscaping or manicure and nail extension. Prove to your husband the independence, ability to live without him.
7. Do not provoke the husband to the boorish and consumer relation the excessive humility, softness, non-failure operation. Quite often women, in everything pleasing and indulging the spouse, do of him the despot and the tyrant.
8. Do not cultivate the fears and complexes, you remember that outside the window the 21st century and all people are equal in the rights. Argue the point of view at communication with the husband, you strive for independence and independence, demand to yourself respect. Also you remember that there are no perfect people on Earth just therefore both of you have the right for mistakes.