It is not for nothing claimed that the patched-up peace is much better, than any, even the kindest, a quarrel. If it is about the relations between lovers. Usually, to quarrels give discrepancies in views and also collisions of interests. It is impossible to solve a problem with the help of quarrels a priori. Means, it is necessary to cease to quarrel with the guy, having learned to resolve conflict situations in other way.
Instruction
1. To cease to quarrel with darling much more simply, than can seem. For a start – take "preventive measures". To cease to quarrel with the guy, learn to conduct constructive dialogue. Learn to listen and hear darling and also to explain the position, without becoming personal, without giving vent to the emotions. You teach the same the guy.
2. To cease to quarrel with the guy, be ready to go on compromises. It is impossible to have the identical point of view on all questions as well the interests of lovers will not always coincide. Therefore search of the third option which will suit both lovers can become a quite good exit from any conflict situation.
3. To cease to quarrel with darling, having learned to discuss problems and to make a compromise, it will be simpler. But sometimes emotions literally overflow, without allowing it is good to consider the strategy of behavior. If you are ready to break for the guy, try to take emotions under control. Try technology of deep slow breath, count to ten. During this time emotions will a little cease, and you will be able to understand that quiet discussion will give you much more, than shouts and mutual reproaches.
4. To cease to quarrel with the guy it is possible if sometimes to allow to cool down also to him. If you learned to control the emotions, then your guy can not have such skill. If this is soIf this is soIf this is so, and your darling becomes "angry very fast", let's it cool the heat. Sometimes it is useful to give the conversation another turn. Having rejected emotions, you will be able to resolve the problems much more effectively.
5. To cease to quarrel with darling, learn to switch and joke. By psychologists it is proved that the humour and aggression are incompatible. Having begun to laugh, you will not be able to quarrel with each other any more. And having calmed down, you will be able to pass to discussion of a situation. Sometimes instead of humour it is possible to use tenderness and caress. Against such weapon in female hands any guy will not be able to resist.