"Whether you swear to love... in a disease and health, in the mountain and joy...?" Oaths are brought, the alliance is concluded. And, it seems, there is no way back. But often it happens that the wedding ring designed to be a symbol of indestructible conjugal ties addresses a loop on a neck. And once fine feelings are succeeded by wild desire to return everything on a former step and to ascend nevermore on this deceptive ladder — a ladder of unfulfilled desires and in ashes of the carried hopes...
Instruction
1. To change the husband, it is necessary that you something meant to him. And to maintain the interest of your spouse in own person - it is necessary to take care of the own life. The question of how you look always has to concern you. Do not dare to cease to care for your figure, a hairstyle, a make-up, clothes and other important components of your image! At you is not present on this right for very simple reason: you are a woman! Having forgotten about this indisputable truth, you immediately will cease to exist for your spouse!
2. To force your husband to change, you have to give him an opportunity to pine waiting for you. Such is life people are also that - everything becomes boring to us, us sooner or later (to men more!) it is peculiar to be satiated with all too quickly. And it is quite natural that the man quickly is tired that his wife always same. Not in the sense that "she should find replacement" (though if nothing changes eventually he will arrive also at this idea). Means that it always houses, always erases or prepares, or watches the silly soap opera, it is always identical is equally boring, more precisely. Let you will have own interests, affairs, acquaintances, meetings which do not have any relation to your spouse. Certainly, here this is not aboutthis is not aboutthis is not about marital infidelity! Join some club on interests, practice shaping, yoga, dances, the photo, a sculpture, pottery, the fine arts - what always attracted you, but what there was never enough time for. Learn to resemble different, not yourself last at all, surprise him more often, be not afraid of novelty.
3. Your husband can make to you concessions and will begin to change if has a real idea of what is necessary to it without you. It is, at all, not an appeal to that you packed all the things and moved down from it in hope that will kolenopreklonno begin to ask about your return. Not the fact that in such situation everything will be solved in your advantage... Here the thin and tactful step is necessary. For example, thrust at work in a business trip, go for a short time to visit relatives in other city or develop a little with old girlfriends with whom agreed long ago to have a rest all in a crowd. In a word, the motive for separation has to be rather good, and it has to last, at least, a day three. Having been left without your presence, attention and leaving in real time, your spouse approximately realizes that he will mean a final break with you therefore will learn to appreciate really you and everything that you for it do!
4. Heard sometime about Pygmalion, the mythological sculptor who modeled a statue of the most beautiful woman? He was so bewitched and delighted own creation that was over head and ears in love with it. Day and night he asked the Olympic gods about that the statue reciprocated to it. And at last, Aphrodite heard its entreaties, took pity on the unfortunate lover and recovered for him a statue. In psychology there is such concept as "Pygmalion's effect" (effect of the coming true expectations). On the basis of thousands of experiments it was proved that by means of the most usual, but sincere expectations it is possible to change character of the person, without resorting to receptions, like arrangements, coercions or manipulations. So do not doom in advance your attempts to change the husband to a failure the disbelief! Influence own expectations better, be adjusted on positive result and stock up with patience!