It is necessary to communicate with relatives at a close psychological distance. For this reason the slightest imprudence can hurt and spoil the relations.
Instruction
1. Recognize that the related relations are important — so it developed historically. It was promoted by existence of communities where all depended on all and family relations had huge value. Quite often good positions are offered first of all relatives. In big cities there is real "mafia" of the provincials connected with each other by birth or through marriage. It allows to adapt better. If one of visitors tries to obtain success, all family not bad feels.
2. At communication with relatives you hold a reasonable psychological distance: it is impossible to allow them to interfere with life, otherwise quarrels will regularly take place. It is difficult to resist to relatives, the living row, but at some point it is necessary to do it that will save from need regularly to enter the conflicts. Best of all "the method of the worn-out plate" when you is quiet works, but persistently you repeat about the made decision for a long time. Over time the loved one will understand that to him not to overcome silent determination, and you will gradually win freedom degrees. At some distance it is easier to live in peace and friendship.
3. Do not forget to help regularly relatives regardless of which between you relationship. Such position will allow to look nobly and to expect support in different situations. Even when the relations not the warmest, will not be able to refuse to you. If there is a conflict, it is necessary to tell relatives a phrase like such: "In a difficult situation you can rely on me, and I hope for you too. We live in such unstable world. It is necessary to count only on relatives, and you are dear to me therefore let's not hurt each other". Close people wait from you not only words that you appreciate them, but also the real help.