There are many reasons for which the relations in family worsen. It can do also fatigue from life and continuous cares of wellbeing of family. But most often the relations spoil due to the lack of understanding between spouses. At some interest to each other over the years vanishes, there are only an attachment and a habit. Many in this situation get divorced, and it is not enough who tries to return the relations to the former course. And meanwhile it is to the best quite possible to change the relations with the husband or the wife. The main thing that there was desire.
Instruction
1. The first that should be made is to call the spouse on straight talk. Sit down together and quietly discuss your relations. Express it the doubts, torments, he let too will tell that he does not suit it or disturbs. During the conversation try to keep quiet tone. Even, if something does not suit you in behavior of the husband, it is not necessary because of it to shout at it, and especially to offend. All your claims have to be reasoned as it is easier for man to understand logically built chain of reasonings, than arguments given on emotions. The successful, correctly constructed conversation can become a starting point for improvement of the relations.
2. Introduce in your family life something new and unusual. It can be a trip together to some romantic place for the weekend, or a visit of restaurant. The modern world offers the huge choice of hobbies and a hobby among which you will be able to find what will interest both of you, will bring together with each other, will make your family life brighter.
3. Often the relations in families spoil because people think that all know about the partner, and he cannot offer them anything new. Because of it interest vanishes. But each person is a book which can be read all life, but not to reach its termination. Look narrowly at the husband, and you will surely find in him something interesting and unknown to you. And try to open to the spouse from the side, unexpected for it. For this purpose talk more, be interested in interests and hobbies of each other, affairs at work.
4. Change. You go to beauty shop, have hair cut, change hair color, the clothes style. Register to the gym. The man, how many to him there would be no years, always wants to see near himself the well-groomed, stylish woman. And if you it is impossible to call such now, then, most likely, the reason of cooling is in it.
5. If with your appearance everything is all right, then the reason can be that your husband has nothing with you to talk. Especially, such situation is characteristic of housewives. The husband constantly rotates among other people, communicates on working and other subjects, constantly somehow develops, and the wife wallowed in cares of children and of household chores. At spouses the general subjects for a conversation just disappear. Correct this situation. Be interested in what occurs in the world, and not just in your apartment. Go to some courses, maybe, it is worth coming to work, not so much for the sake of money how many for own development. Become interesting in respect of communication. Your man will surely estimate it.
6. Pay attention to the sexual party of your life. How often do you have sex with the husband? As far as your desire at the same time is big? If answers to these questions unfavourable, then it is necessary urgently to change something in this plan. It is necessary to begin besides with straight talk. Find out with the husband what is not enough for you in intim with what you wanted to see these relations. And further making a start from result of a conversation, try to adjust the sexual party of your life. Perhaps, will enough diversify the used poses, or it will want to you something more original. Be not afraid of straight talks on this subject as the future of your family can depend on it.