Each mother very much loves the son and wishes well to him only and happiness. And differently cannot be, mother and the child since the birth are psychologically connected among themselves. But there passes time, and the child matures, there is a need for independence and upholding of own opinion. Very often parents cannot find a common language with the adult children in any way. And it is necessary to aspire to it.
Instruction
1. First of all it is necessary to replace tactics and to treat the grown-up child not as to the child, and already to the adult. It is unfair to take the dominated position in the attitudes towards the son. He too already rather big, capable to live independently and exactly as finds necessary. Thus, understanding with the adult son will become possible only when the parent becomes for it a friend and the relations are equal.
2. You should not forget about respect. The grown-up sonny has full authority to make own decisions even if his mother with the father do not agree with such judgments. Anyway, this his opinion which needs to be accepted. The best that parents can make is to give a practical advice, to state the point of view. And to listen to it or to arrive in own way, the child will solve.
3. It is expedient to refuse egoism as often it prevents creation of the relations. Parents should not act only in the interests, think only of themselves. They should consider still the interests of the son, he is an individual. It is necessary to present itself on the place of the child, to look on the events at it with eyes. Then a lot of things can be understood.
4. Many young people are capable to perceive the words of parents "in bayonets". That so did not occur, it is important to try to talk more to the grown-up son, to be interested in his public and private life, to solve the arising problems. If to follow such position, many conflicts and misunderstanding can be avoided.
5. Never and under no circumstances it is impossible to shout at the adult son. It will only aggravate a situation and will even more alienate dear people from each other. Parents have to be sensitive and wise, capable to understand and give a helping hand to the child when he needs really it. To be hard for adults.