Only parents can impart to the child knowledge of behavior in society. This knowledge will help to develop with it independence and ability to build the relations with people around. It is necessary to explain correctly to the kid what to wish something bigger - it it is natural.
Without knowing how to ask, the person very seldom appeals to someone and he has no hope for positive result, and the word "no" is always perceived as defeat. As a result of difficulty are overcome without support, there is no knowledge of creation of the relations in family and with people around. For the person able to state the requests, the refusal will not be insult, also he will be able easily to convince the interlocutor of all need and advantage of the request. Such people achieve big results.
When in family there is a child, the loving parents are ready to give him all best. But there is a danger that he will be spoiled and whimsical as requirements increase each time, and having been refused, such child suits hysterics.
To avoid similar consequences, parents need to make the following:
- First, the child should explain the reason of the refusal correctly.
- Secondly, it is necessary to give to the child the chance to state all need of the request. If he convincingly proves the case and to protect the interests, he means will be able to conduct dialogue with people around, and parents have to show the turn to the child that his opinion and desires do not remain unnoticed. It will raise the child's self-assessment.
Requests of boys always sound directly, at the subconscious level. They are nonplused by refusal and there is a feeling of alarm. In such situation the parents need to support the son and also it is necessary to find out in detail the reason of frustration of the boy, his feelings which arose at the same time. But the obvious help at the same time does not need to be offered.
Girls, as a rule, directly do not state the requests, and use all hints. As a result of them can not understand, and it can strongly upset them. It is necessary to teach the girl to speak about the request directly and specifically. At refusal the girl should feel sympathy and in every possible way to support her.