People often complain that even the closest do not understand them what to speak about people around. Especially, it is peculiar to do it to teenagers when to the forefront there is a protest and desire everything in own way. Continuous misunderstanding makes the person closed, reserved, he tries not to come into contact with other people. Lack of understanding are a sign of the unhealthy relations.
Instruction
1. As the reasons of misunderstanding can serve eternal fight of generations when fathers not of understand children and vice versa; too different interests contradicting each other, for example, if you very believing person, and your spouse – the ardent atheist. Too display behavior, constant requirements to another about trust and many other things gives an impetus to misunderstanding. Anyway, the conflict which delay can lead to permanent changes in relationship and a self-assessment takes place. To achieve understanding, and especially, mutual understandings, sometimes, happens very not easy. It is mutual process, it demands time and ability to reconstruct, accept something that you, perhaps, do not want to accept. What needs to be done: Try to put yourself to the place of the one who as it seems to you, does not wish to understand you. It can be your child or someone from parents, fellow workers, friends, the chief. It is very important to manage to look at the events with eyes of these people and to reveal what causes in them a protest. Thus you define the reason of misunderstanding and if desired will be able to correct it or by direct dialogue, or changing own behavior.
2. If it is about misunderstanding between very close people, it is possible to use a confidential conversation in which everyone, without insults and hints will be able to state another that he does not suit it. Together it is possible to solve very many problems, to develop an algorithm of relationship which will be convenient to both of you.
3. The conflicts with the administration are very often observed. It seems to you that you are not appreciated, do not understand, do not understand your position. If at you the child got sick, the chief does not release you a bit earlier home, and demands that you worked change to a call. Here a problem, most likely, in the chief though, it is possible that you once gave a reason for similar to you the relations. Look narrowly whether only it concerns you in this way or, maybe, this his usual behavior. In the second case to worry to you not because of what. It is collectively possible to put into place even the most despotic head. If negative reaction is caused by you, look narrowly at yourself. Whether well you cope with the duties? Whether there corresponds your suit, a manner of behavior of subjects which are accepted in this organization? Perhaps, the reason at all not in you, and in your red blouse which irritates the chief? Think, there can be this work at all do not cost those nerves which you spend.