Matrimony is a special art of the relations. And not to everyone it is allowed to comprehend it. Often at all it begins equally – a wedding, the child's birth, creation of plans for the future. But there pass several years and everything can sharply change. To notorious unfaithfulness, showdowns and grindings in, the new problem increased recently – the wife does not respect the husband. Why it became how relevant for modern institution of marriage? Let's try to understand the reasons and versions of its decision.
I am not respected by the wife what to do?
Having heard the similar complaint from the man earlier, at least, it would be strange. According to the same domestic tyranny the woman – the keeper of the family center. Its main duty is to idolize and read the man. But today, if to look around, it is often possible to see how wives lecture the spouses publicly, the first begin to change them not to mention that long ago ceased to reckon with opinion of men. But on the other hand, how to force the wife to respect the husband if there are such factors as her education, complexity of character and other shortcomings of a type of high self-esteem, egoism, etc.? Actually a problem of modern society in what moral standard and morality was undergone by strong changes for the last several decades. Worldwide it is proud women's emancipation walks. Women fight for the equal rights with men. And "defenders" strongly gave in recently. The cause is same society. Present for a moment as there is a growth and psychological formation of men:
- mother as the father or at work, or considers that children it "not men's business" is engaged in education of the boy;
- the boy goes to kindergarten, and there again women already as tutors (however and at school the same situation);
- modern mothers in every possible way try to protect the child from a visit of army. As a result one more hope to receive the "real" man falls.
- And after all listed factors there comes the matrimony time. And the vast majority of men taught by bitter life experience already prefer not to go to the mats with the next woman (even if also the most favourite). And women, feeling the force, begin to dominate and understand that the person who in everything agrees instead of showing who in the house the owner, will hardly become a reliable support and protection. And how after that to force the wife to respect the spouse? Possibly it will occur only if she wishes that.
How to learn to respect men?
Search of guilty persons in the circumstances – business ungrateful. For the last 100 years of a mistake of men in behavior with women turned into stereotypes which break down quite difficult. All men svo …, and all women … you know who too. This thought was fixed in public consciousness long ago. And in its formation the senior generation tried much. Especially got to those women who were brought up without father. How will you be able to force the wife to respect the husband if her mother a half of life repeated that she from men is not present any I pound, and they will betray at the first opportunity and in general they are worthless beings? Praise to those mothers who found forces competently to bring up the girl. But what to do to those who for one reason or another lost trust to the stronger sex and does not know how to begin to respect the husband? To start and otherwise to look at a situation will help several advice:
- Your husband is your second half. A part you and the person whom you personally once chose as the partner in life. Without respecting him, you actually do not respect yourself and the choice.
- Men rule the world, and women govern men. Accept it it what it is, with all shortcomings, addictions, etc. Whatever your husband was, he always needs your support. Try at least short time to listen to it, to help at a difficult moment and to let to it know that it is loved. Believe, your man it will become perfect other.
- Forget about the most widespread myth and, at last, realize – your husband WILL never CHANGE! It it it, and you it you. He is not obliged to be able to read your mind and to understand your hints. Understand, at last, that the man has interests and private life out of family too. Do not try to change him, "to improve" and you do not press on him the claims. Let's it reveal and perhaps you will find out that it has a mass of advantages which it is possible and it is necessary to respect.
- We are responsible for those who were tamed. Let the stronger sex for this phrase, but an element of truth from it do not take offense not to remove. If you chose such worthless, not respected by you personally, now it is your cross, and yours, I'm sorry, problems. In hands of the careful and gentle wife the man is capable to blossom not worse than an overseas plant. And respect for it it practically the same that watering and fertilizer for any flower.
- Learn to hear and listen to the spouse. Also as well as to you it is important to it to share the experiences, the ideas and thoughts. The wife is the closest friend and the man's colleague. Thanks to the beloved many men became outstanding and dear members of society. Otherwise, it will find other "ears" for the sincere outpourings, and these ears can become then the mistress or at all other wife.
This simple advice will help you to realize how to learn to respect the husband and to begin to work in a right direction. Let does not confuse you that for the sake of the fine family relations the woman has to sacrifice a little herself and the interests. Believe – your efforts, these are investments into the future. Each your step taken towards respect of love and trust in family wholly will pay off then, and life will award you for zeal and efforts. You love each other and you keep the love very much.
"