Many women are afraid and dislike the mother-in-law. But it is not necessary to demonize this image, the mother-in-law is first of all the woman and mother. And two adult and clever women will always find a common language.
If you want to make friends with the mother-in-law, do not wait for a miracle or the sign from above, and just take the first step to communication. Allocate for yourself what your mother-in-law can be respected and appreciated what she can teach you, proceeding from rich life experience to. And that to shortcomings, try to close eyes to them, all of us are not ideal.
1. To be on friendly terms at distance. Most important rule of the fine and benevolent relations with the mother-in-law this separate accommodation. Even if it is necessary to rent apartment, but nerves and the normal human relations it is more important than excess expenditure. If with the husband it fell to you on time to move to his parents (because of repair or just to stay for a while), do not challenge domination of the mother-in-law in her house, try to adapt to the schedule developed for years.
2. To appreciate her memoirs. It is not necessary to avoid communication with the mother-in-law, believe, she does not bite even if sometimes looks too severe. If you remained alone, ask as at her put that concerns her at present. Take the initiative, so you will show that are open for communication and the kind relations. Sure bet: viewing family album. Ask to show a photo of their family and children's pictures of your husband. Believe, the dushavny and warm conversation is provided to you!
3. To ask council. Each woman and mother wants to feel necessary. Therefore if you have with the mother-in-law a little intense relations, then never refuse her help. Also you can ask it for suggestions, be interested in opinion on any given question. If council or the idea of the mother-in-law helped you, do not forget to thank her for it.
It is important! If you reject the help to the mother-in-law or do not listen to council, surely justify with it the decision. For example, if she advises to feed the newborn child with semolina porridge instead of mix, explain to her that modern pediatricians against such menu, show articles and video on this subject.
4. Not to tell superfluous. Remember that even if you with the mother-in-law had very cordial relations, you should not tell her all secrets and to reveal family secrets. Especially if they concern your husband. First of all, he is her son and it will always protect it even if he, in your opinion, was wrong.
5. To remember important dates. Your husband, as well as many men, can not remember date of a wedding of the parents, forget about the Mother's Day. Therefore write down all important dates in the daily log or make reminders in phone. It will be very pleasant to the mother-in-law that you with the husband do not forget about days, important for it.