The reasons of men's treason practically in 80% cases are connected with the child's birth in family. On unfaithfulness of men push many factors which were not till the child's birth. How to avoid treason? And how to behave if it after all happened?
Paternity for men - a severe stress. Also the system of values in already developed family, and a daily routine is turned upside down. Now the attention and care of loving ""half"" entirely belongs to the small shouting lump which subordinates to itself(himself) time, a dream, shouts and pisat in diapers. Household difficulties irritate men, it is a conflict zone: from the man the help as young mother does not cope with a stream of duties is required now. The collected irritation ""stupidity"" of the spouse develops into emotional splashes, irritation, rage of the wife. Such wife the man to himself ""did not order"", and he vopsprinimat change of the attitude towards himself very painfully. Besides, literally frightens men, and sometimes and the children's peep, crying ""enrages"", it can cause a headache, fear, a stress. Often men are frightened by both financial problems, and sleepless nights in which there is no time for sex. And the woman who is looking after the child is too loaded by a family and household routine, from her former passion often nothing remains. All this leans on the man a heavy burden, causes a depression. If women think that to the stronger sex all - they are mistaken at all.
In such situations blessed becomes unfortunate, and causes quite explainable desire to warm emotionally, to caress physically in women. For the man it is an exit, attempt to escape out of borders of the world, in the face of losing romanticism, to overcome a stress, to avoid a depression. The man is attracted in the mistress by an opportunity to be free, not guilty of anything. What a sin to conceal, young mothers like to play on sense of guilt, to criticize, and it pushes away the man.
Despite fatigue, after all it is necessary to find time and forces for emotional communication with the man. If he does not feel internally lonely - the risk of treason becomes minimal. Reconsider the relation to life. Perhaps, you should not fall from legs from heroic efforts when in the apartment everything shines, and at heart cats scrape. In general, the woman should not sacrifice herself for the sake of an order in the house, otherwise the feeling of vindictiveness and disappointment all the same will develop into nervous tantrum, having negatively affected the relations. After all, couple of unfortunate plates or not washed towels will not make weather.
Criticize the spouse less. The praise inspires, and the man is ready to make much more when he is promoted from the woman. Try to dissolve offenses, without postponing, in a confidential conversation, a quiet conversation. You should not protect too rest of the man - he has to feel responsibility for the child on an equal basis with the wife. But also you should not load too it household chores, the boredom pushes men on secret romantic hobbies even quicker, than nervous hails of the wife. The request for the help should not be said as a claim, with a discontent shade. In general, the chronic discontent of the woman with the man - most often also brings it into others bed where he feels assured, protected from attacks and the female criticism exhausting soul.
And if treason happened - the woman should not being wiser, to draw hasty conclusions. Instead of destroying those relations which were already established it is better to think how to revive special ease and nervousness, romanticism, feeling of slight love. All this is the real charm for family and a magnet for the man. The woman has to be desired. And then accidental communication and will remain accidental.
Surprisingly the fact that unfaithfulness because of the birth of children is typical for first marriage. Second marriage always stronger, stable, partners accurately know what want from each other, in them sex - not the main thing in the relations as people in second marriage are connected by many general hobbies there is more aspiration to understand each other, and.