The loving woman wants that her man remained faithful and always was near her. And, of course, she worries about the fate of their relations. But nevertheless the fear of loss of darling is more inherent in women in that society where the man holds a dominant position. In Russia too through many centuries in families there was the man's cult, and internal belief of the woman that without the stronger sex it is possible, sat down at the genetic level. But in the 21st century it would already be worth getting rid of such phobia.
Instruction
1. If you understood that this fear prevents you to live and feel normally, then it means that you already took the first step to internal freedom. Try to drive from yourself negative thoughts, if some feeling seizes all your being, you stop thinking rationally. And if you do not think, so you make many silly acts and, perhaps, you tell foolish things, than in no small measure you irritate the man as he, most likely, just does not understand what occurs.
2. In certain cases the fear recedes if you "are well uttered". The thoughts given a verbal shape lose the sharpness, and at heart it becomes easier. Try to find the attentive psychotherapist who will listen to you, will teach to argue in a different way and will give a number of a practical advice about that, to behave properly in the relations with the man.
3. As "psychotherapist" the married girlfriend, the woman of advanced age and more skilled in family affairs can sometimes act.
4. Try to understand why you are afraid. Perhaps, you already endured heavy break in relations and do not want it to repeat. Then it is necessary to analyze once again your past experience and to draw rational conclusions. Do not repeat the mistakes.
5. If the reason of your fears is that you are not sure of yourself and underestimate yourself as the personality, try to work over the qualities. For example, define and write out in a column the advantages for which it is worth loving and respecting you, and shortcomings. You are not able to prepare? Who prevents to go to culinary courses and to learn to do it professionally … Are insufficiently attractive? Play sports and learn to use cosmetics. Think as well as in what it is necessary to put on … Only do not do all these things for the sake of the darling. They are necessary to you for increase in the self-assessment.
6. Make sure thatMake sure that your love is mutual. If after long reflections you come to a conclusion that the man just does not love you as strongly as you whether then you are afraid to lose it or are not afraid, but break in relations is quite possible. Honestly admit this bitter fact and stop to be afraid.
7. Your life belongs only to you, and you should not be dissolved at all for the benefit of the man whom you love. Look for such occupations which personally are pleasant to you, and do not spend time for silly reflections and doubts. If you have other hobbies and passions (friends, cinema, painting, dances, sport, etc.), you will not be so dependent on the man.
8. Be engaged in the intellectual development. Read more, get acquainted with new fields of knowledge. For this purpose it is not necessary to become "bookworm" or the scientist, but, absorbing new information, you will feel more surely, more competently. You will begin to respect yourself more, and with you it will be more interesting to your man.
9. Imagine the worst: he threw you. And after the first attack of panic when the ability to think returns to you, think: so what? Life on it does not come to an end, around a great number of other interesting people about whom you now also do not know, and you still clever and attractive woman … Present how many opportunities to you are given by freedom.
10. If you really love it, release on search of the best destiny. And not because you masochist or such kind. Simply, many men, sometimes unconsciously, play on these fears with women. And if you do not cling to it as for the last hope in life, then, perhaps, this most "hook" on it stronger. Losses in life happen, to it it is necessary to be ready, but to worry about what, perhaps, will never occur, is not necessary. You appreciate the happiness today.