Some problems in the relations cannot be neglected. They need to be solved, previously having discussed with the beloved. However, to have with the guy a heart-to-heart talk, it is necessary to be prepared for a conversation.
What it is necessary to prepare before a sincere conversation with the guy for?
If you decided to discuss frankly any problem with the young man, you have to understand that not imposing to the guy of the idea, a position and the point of view, and just publicity of the opinion will be the purpose of your conversation. People very often have the beliefs concerning any given situation, and others view of things for them becomes rare acceptable. For this reason you have to be prepared in advance for the fact that your interlocutor will be unaffected by your thoughts, and you should stock up with powerful arguments for proof of the correctness and also iron nerves and patience.
If you want something to achieve from the beloved, you have to make so that he wanted to make it. You do not press on the guy and think over that exactly to tell him in order that he realized need of any given action.
How to build a sincere conversation with the guy?
It will be most difficult to begin your informal conversation. It is the best of all if you choose for this purpose the suitable place and time when your young man is in good mood. If your conversation touches upon serious and sore subjects, you have to wait not for good mood of your beloved, but neutral, otherwise you risk to get negative emotions from his party for the spoiled day which so well began. Begin a conversation with the fact that you need to talk, and to begin a conversation better not with accusatory phrases where there will be only a word "you", and to sound the experiences and feelings. The pronoun "we" will be suitable for sincere dialogue more. Do not try to inform the beloved who he is bad. If something does not suit you, do not splash out all the negative on the guy. It will be much better if you tell it that you are very happy with it that it the best, but is some moments which disturb you and which you, perhaps, would like to change. You should not tell a monologue huge speeches. Let's your young man state the point of view and to explain the behavior and the acts. Perhaps, you will manage to come to a common denominator much quicker, than you counted. Prepare that your conversation will not bring the fleeting solution of all problems, and will give only the soil for reflections. Any problem has to be comprehended therefore ask the soulmate to think seriously of what you told, and over time to return in a conversation.