Over the years two people loving each other can move away, having become almost others. As a result it becomes boring for all, the relations spoil, the love is succeeded by irritation, the family collapses. And it is so simple not to allow such scenario, having kept the matrimonial relations for many years.
It is possible to call the first enemy of love boredom. Why does it arise? Most often the woman is inclined to be dissolved completely in darling, forgetting that she once was a full-fledged personality with own outlook, a hobby, habits and character. Instead of adapting, getting used, it turned out to become someone like a doggie who on command brings slippers and the newspaper, faithfully faces, being afraid to look in eyes, and waits for a kick or a handout. And in a counterbalance - jealousy: digging in phone or personal correspondence on social networks, shadowing, hysterics.
And how often from married women, still young, it is possible to hear opinion: ""Yes what difference as I look, is all the same already married!"" Or the young mother forgetting to watch herself, covering the laziness and disrespect for the husband with motherhood. And still we, people, often do not hesitate to offend darling a word. Only several rules, the main for each family, it is also possible to try to retain the relations, interest to each other.
The most important rule of preservation of peace in family - keep the mouth shut!
It concerns, first of all, unflattering expressions to parents of the soulmate with whom not always at once it turns out to find a common language. With parents everything is difficult. These are, in fact, foreign people who are not obliged to accept and to treat kindly. But, strangely enough, having taken it for an axiom, it is possible to achieve the best results, than very much trying to be pleasant.
Perceive parents initially as the, you understand, respect and do not demand much. And you do not speak to the half badly about parents at all. To same also mutual insults and reproaches which spouses sometimes do not stint belong. And so just not to call an ugly word, to constrain anger. And it is much more difficult, having begun to abuse, stop.
Rule second - watch yourself, but not the husband!
Hackneyed, but exact expression. The wife, having plunged into life, often forgets that she is, first of all, a woman. The stereotype that success of the woman is equal to her marriage is strong. That is, married and it is possible to relax, the objective is achieved. It is wrong. Try to please darling with tidy appearance and a smile upon the face, good mood. And the appearance is important too. But often young mothers are covered with the status, considering that gave birth to the child and it is possible not to keep a figure.
The man is visual and the wife has to be pleasant to the husband not only as the person, but also as the woman. So we watch ourselves and we keep muscles in a tone. The same concerns also men: how often handsome turns into grown fat the little man in the extended trousers and with a beer tummy, indifferent to the wife, almost day and night carrying out at work and at the computer, and then surprised that his beautiful wife suddenly left.
Rule third is consent!
Try and you are surprised how quickly begins it to work: agree instead of arguing. And on grumble you say: ""I Love!"" You will Also not notice how quarrels will disappear and in family the world and a harmony will set in.
Rule fourth - do favorite thing! Continue to be engaged in the same that is pleasant and what you were keen before marriage on. Even if your second half also does not share your interests. Being dissolved in darling, it is so easy to lose also himself, and interest in himself. You go to mountains, embroider, communicate with friends - the main thing that it was not to the detriment of family.
There is a lot of such rules also for each family these rules - the. Someone likes to do everything together, to have a rest together and to work nearby, the personal liberty is more important for someone; someone the active traveler, and someone by the nature the homebody. There are no identical people and there are no identical couples. But the most important is to listen to each other and to trust, not to lose itself as person, and not to try to change the partner. Important and just to support each other in any situation, to be friends, partners, lovers, to respect each other and parents. The whole life also consists of all these trifles. And whether you keep respect, love and the fine matrimonial relations or not, depends only on you.