The love not always lasts all life as lovers dream of that – sometimes people leave, and after parting can or forget forever about each other, or continue communication, having remained friends. The last scenario especially difficult is given to the former lovers – frequent all attempts to keep friendship turn into failure, and they should stop communication finally. How to leave friends and to keep the benevolent relations with the person even after a gap?
Instruction
1. Such parting requires special attention and tactfulness in relation to the person and therefore there can be friends only those people who really became relatives each other and, despite fading of feelings, they continue to be interested in each other life.
2. Similar friendship gives you the mass of advantages – you as nobody else know the partner, so, will be able to give to him the best friend advice. However for this purpose it is necessary to follow some rules.
3. To leave friends, discuss the termination of the relations in a quiet situation, without scandals and mutual reproaches. Thank the person for everything that between you was and honestly admit that your feelings died away. You should not at once suggest the person to remain friends.
4. Wait some time until the first regrets settle and the person ceases to feel grief – then you can suggest not to leave finally, and to continue companionship. Let the person know that despite of everything, he is dear to you.
5. Never make advances and do not flirt with the person with whom you decided to become friends after the period of close relations. Try not to concern a subject of your former relations, both in personal contact, and in the company of mutual friends. This issue will be sensitive for both of you.
6. Never gossip about what between you occurred, be not jealous the former partner of other people, do not dictate him behavior model – now this person is free, and has the right to dispose independently of the private life. Do not state critical comments in relation to his new elects. It will help to keep cordial relations for a long time.