Relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law became a subject of jokes and jokes long ago. It is considered to be that they initially will be intense and to come down to fight for love of the man who is the son of one of them, and another – the husband. It is thought that it will be much better to improve the relations, just because you are one family and the mother-in-law now - that woman who gave rise and brought up your husband and your children have enough by grandmother.
Instruction
1. The easiest to maintain the relations when you live with the husband and children separately from parents. But even if it not and to you it is necessary to share with the mother-in-law one kitchen for two, try to establish the equal and friendly relations. Notorious "female solidarity" after all exists and you should turn in the opinion of the mother-in-law from her competitor into her accomplice. Try at once if you live alone family, to unite with it, at least in words. Discussing something on family council or expressing, try to speak to a thicket "we", but not "I". For example: "It is necessary to buy the washing machine because we with Marya Ivanovna cannot erase manually".
2. No woman wants to feel growing old and losing attractiveness. Make her the gifts emphasizing that it in your eyes not the grumbling old woman, and still the attractive woman. It can be good perfume or anti-aging creams. Even if you give household appliances, emphasize that it will allow to save your mother-in-law not only time, but also beautiful hands, for example.
3. Learn about her hobbies and you give it what she will be really glad to. If she is fond of floriculture, an embroidery or knitting, that is the mass of opportunities to please it with all the heart. The gift which is bought not accidentally especially for it, will be always pleasant and appreciated.
4. Consult on it more often, consult and try not to interrupt even if she tells well to you the known things. To you nobody forbids to arrive exactly the opposite, but if having made something laudable, you at the same time will refer to its valuable advice and participation, then heart of your mother-in-law will begin to melt. Understand, you should not go obstinate and go on the principle on insignificant trifles, it will only irritate both of you and will heat a situation in family. Concede, but always defend "the territory" on some fundamental issues.
5. Feeling that nobody attempts upon its authority that reckon with it and it is appreciated and loved that its interests consider and remember her hobbies, your mother-in-law gradually will understand that for confrontation there are no occasions.