It is just impossible to meet at least one family which does without scandals and rough showdowns. And this fact does not mean at all that conflict situations will be solved by itself. If not to work on them, then problems will collect as a snowball, and can turn into a destructive avalanche
It is easy to become angry and tell to the husband many offensive and unpleasant words, and to reconcile here after that quite difficult. Even having understood that the fault completely lies with it, it is hard for woman to take the first step to reconciliation — does not give pride.
And there is a question — and what, actually, to do? To wait when the husband comes to improve the relations or to confess before him? How to reconcile with the husband after the quarrel if you are guilty?
Councils of psychologists
The most important that needs to be made is to forget offense at the husband for those words that he told you during the quarrel. To analyze without his emotions and the behavior during the conflict, to understand for itself that all insults told by you — only toxic emission.
But if you still want to pay off and accuse of all the soulmate, then you are not ready to reconciliation. It is necessary to place, as soon as possible, before itself priorities: that it is more important for you — pride or family.
So, follow a professional advice, and the difficult situation will be solved by itself:
1. Accurately find out the cause of a quarrel. Maybe it will turn out so that many factors were imposed at each other, and the true reason is hidden from your attention. Even if you are guilty, then roots of your act can be buried deeply. It is necessary to define the reason and to open it before the husband.
2. Forget about threats of parting. Not always attack is a good way to protect itself. It will be much better to admit the guilt and to explain to the loved one that to you it is bad without him, than to intimidate him by a divorce. And what if the husband responds positively to your blackmail and will decide to leave?
3. Take emotions under control. The reserved behavior, instead of insults and reproaches, will help you to reconcile with the husband much quicker.
4. Give to the husband time will calm down also everything to consider. Painfully and hard not only to you, but also your darling. Try to speak briefly and in essence, and then leave him for some time alone. Let will consider information and will cope with emotions.
5. Nobody should tell about the conflict. It will be more difficult to reconcile with the husband if the inner circle is aware of your squabbles. Gossips and dismantling with relatives will only aggravate a situation.
6. Cope with offense and excess pride. Undoubtedly, you will present the husband with a fait accompli of your wounded advantage. But do not go too far that will not turn into the troublemaking companion of life.
7. Apologize with advantage. It is possible to show to the husband the repentance and without being humiliated. Treat a problem creatively, at the level of an intuition.
How to reconcile with the husband when he is guilty?
If you were bothered by the prolonged conflict, and the husband does not apologize, then time to undertake responsibility for a situation came.
Sometimes women consider what will reconcile with the husband of the first in that case is very unprofitable — he will cease to appreciate you. But each conflict is especially individual. And the clever woman can always change a situation with benefit for herself to return the husband.
- we Wait a storm. You should not panic and burn bridges at once, it is quite probable that the repentant and guilty husband soon to be to you for a conversation.
- we Take the first step. The guilty husband stubborn is silent? Very much can be that he is afraid to seem weak. You should act most and to seat the pighead at a negotiating table.
- we do not provoke the new conflict. You should not row again, let and there is a wish to throw a thunder and lightnings. It will be quietly more productive to adduce arguments.
There is a lot of opportunities and ways for reconciliation with the husband, but only to choose what of them is suitable you for your family. The most important is not to be late. The relations can collapse even because of a trifle.