There are families in which everything is not really smooth – constant quarrels, disagreements, misunderstanding and the conflicts. All this causes discord in the relations which restoration requires a lot of time, forces and desire from both spouses.
Instruction
1. Admit the guilt. At least two parties are involved in any conflict, each of which is sure of own correctness. But it is frequent, arguing own point of view, people touch each other with sharp words. It turns out that, generally, the person is right, but because of the inept solution of a question he makes mistakes. Therefore before restoring the relations, you need to understand and recognize the mistakes sincerely.
2. Change solution to the conflicts methods. Nobody argues with the fact that it is much easier to increase tone of a voice or even to pass to shout and to accurately express the opinion, than to sit down and to discuss everything. But it is impossible to restore the lost relations without valid discussion and exchange of thoughts. Try to apply this council in your family, and you will see that it is effective.
3. Be polite. The relations constructed on tactfulness, courtesy and politeness are always strong and are highly appreciated. Accustom themselves to tell "thanks", "please", "if you please", "if to you it is not difficult", "excuse" and so on. Be able to notice positive acts of the spouse and sincerely you praise for them. Do not think that if you did not get used to such line of conduct since the childhood, then in mature years it cannot learn.
4. Communicate more often. Do it not occasionally, and it is regular. For example, plan to allocate half an hour for communication with each other after a dinner or during it. By the way, joint meal very much unites family and promotes the warm atmosphere in it. Communicating, focus attention on the feelings and you say that and why it is pleasant to you or not. Do not state claims, and replace them requests.
5. Be engaged in joint affairs. It includes not only planning of rest, but also acquisition of food, house cleaning, cooking. Generally, all that demands joint efforts. Perhaps, first it will be hard for you, but do not allow circumstances to break you.
6. Be patient. The lost relations are not restored in a day or week. But instead of focusing on what you did not reach, analyze together what at you turns out, and set before yourself the further purposes.