You do not want to go to his mother as you should visit own grandmother. You categorically against "transformers" because still a month ago bought tickets for "Doctor Zhivago". You do not love dogs, but adore cats. And what? And anything! You watch yourself kind from outside when you have tea on a visit at his mother, then sit in a ninth row and try to understand who in "transformers" good, and then, oh yes you walk with his dog.
Instruction
1. Psychologists say that ability to refuse – sign of the mature personality. If the person is not self-assured, the positive opinion of people around on its affairs and acts becomes mega important. He "steps on a throat to own song" only not to cause negative reaction and not to offend somebody. But once he is tired. He understands that life one and others desires and whims should not exchange it for connivance. As to get out of a vicious circle?
2. First, once and for all to decide that now everything will be differently. For all it is impossible to be good even if among them the closest and darling. Secondly, to learn to speak firmly "no", it is necessary to conform to the conforming simple rules: You do not pronounce the word "no" directly. You leave from a request it is veiled. For example: "Yes, it would be wonderful to dig over all beds at your dacha, but at us at everything a weeds overgrew. So, excuse".
3. Refer to opinion of dear person: "I am glad to help you to finish the annual report, but the boss prepares for me a new task".
4. Force themselves to respect. At the same time your self-assessment will rise too. In a study hang out the diplomas and diplomas, houses are photos in which the moments of which you especially are proud are imprinted.
5. Work with own fears, including, with fear to be rejected. Read psychological literature (it is possible to begin with adapted), attend seminars and trainings, register in consultation to the psychotherapist. Sometimes, two-three occupations are enough that the head "rose into place".
6. If your guy loves you, he, certainly, will respect your choice and your true desires. If during "therapy" it becomes clear that he is not ready to be reconciled from updated you, well, it is a pity … You it is more important for itself.