""To love more life"". How often this phrase from screens of TVs is heard, it entered our life as a set phrase, and we sometimes repeat it not consciously. In fact these words display not absolutely healthy relation to an object of the love. It is dependence.
We think that the feelings which had to the partner whom there is a wish to see constantly the nobility where he, is love. Ah, as we are mistaken! Here nearby there lives the young couple where the wife threw study for the good of family, the beloved should create a cosiness, to obstiryvat, look after, erase, to prepare. It is the meaning of her life, without it she will not live also day. A sit-round gathering with girlfriends is uninteresting to it, it is not there, there is no desire to work, suddenly when it at work, can be necessary for It something.
So this lives, in appearance happy couple, it is a lot of years. She loves it, and he studies, finds good work, meets friends, plays sports and suddenly... throws the ideal wife. The woman shocked also does not understand why she was abandoned that she made not so, she devoted all life to the adored spouse. Refused to itself everything, nights did not sleep if only to Him it was good.
Here we approach the main issue: ""In what the reason? Why did it do all this?"" The husband was never a whimsical egoist, did not change it, did not walk. But the woman created to herself an idol and threw all the life to his legs. And what husband?
One day he was tired of a worship before in person, he outgrew the uneducated wife and, at last, she just bothered it with the puppyish love. The woman endured such heavy emotional shock that she as a result made attempt of suicide and then a long time was treated in psychiatric clinic for a sharp depression. Here it is possible to accuse some the husband of coldness and dishonourableness, but he is right. The wife strangled him the as she thought, love. He needed the companion of life, but not a faithful dog. He wanted to develop in common with the darling, to go forward and to rejoice to success achieved together. In practice made the finished egoist of him. The man was terribly irritated by weakness of the spouse, her refusal of own desires. As result divorce and new family. Recently in world psychiatry the love dependence became the diagnosis. Already the main signs of this frustration and the reason of its emergence came to light. Psychologists actively help the people suffering from dependence and adapt them to the subsequent life.