The NLP (or so-called neurolinguistic programming) was developed as practice of modeling of the verbal and nonverbal acts of human behavior directed only to obtaining a certain achievements in real life and is degeneration of the ideas of behaviorism. The bulk of serious psychologists and scientists-researchers in other humanitarian disciplines recognized the NLP as the inefficient doctrine long ago.
It is not too pleasant to most of people to communicate even with professional psychologists, usually it is done as necessary. It is even less pleasant to realize the fact that certain persons, having read two-three of books doubtful, in terms of science, contents, and/or the visited several occupations seminars, will begin to apply certain miracle psychotechnicians to us to achievement of own benefit. That is, it as if graduates of vocational schools unclear from what will begin to be engaged in applied psychology for the purpose of receiving money. Normally? No. About any moral ethical aspect of such actions in books on the NLP in general the speech does not go. Even more terribly grants how agents of this wonderful doctrine have to act in questions of thin human feelings look.
Dear reasonable and in the slightest degree formed the person, the NLP and love – the things which are not connected and not united by any forces, energy and even desires.
NLP and love
If one of participants of the relations which it is presumablly approximately possible to call the word love begins to think of effective behavior and benefit, already that is called write was gone. If any of these participants wants benefit – can bury feeling.
Lovers, think again! For successful realization of such positive feeling as love which is the main driving force of this world, any human cultures and civilizations any scientific approaches or effective practicians are not necessary. Normal people for love (in any form) need only the real feelings, the normal attitude towards other people and good education.
Yes, and in general, there is a wish to remind once again: the vast majority of representatives of scientific community around the world recognize the NLP as practice inefficient in principle in one sphere of human activity. And it means that?
Inefficiency of the NLP
Receptions, methods and any technicians of the NLP in love are also inefficient.
Some will object, claiming that practicians of the NLP are effective on sales. First: are temporarily effective. Secondly: sales is not love. It is not a shame to you?
Others will tell that the NLP is effective in the so-called pickup. The pickup is not love, but the sum of methods of competent, pragmatic renting (watched the movie Hitcha Method, there is though a word about the NLP?). Absolutely remarkably, if applications the technician of the pickup result the real feelings. It is even better when as a result of such actions the people suit the life. Here it is necessary to see a difference, the pickup and the NLP – again different things. Therefore we will not confuse warm with soft. Many pragmatical technicians of applied psychology are, actually, very effective. The NLP is generally effective for the authors writing books on the NLP and the trainers holding seminars.
In the developed countries the boom of hobby and attempts of introduction of the NLP fell on the 80th years of the last century. In the former Soviet Union the activities for mass introduction and nearly general interest in this quasi-pseudo-effective psychological practice actively blossomed in the 90th. It also is clear. For people whose most part of adult life passed under conditions of the Soviet power it was very difficult to adapt to sharply changed conditions. Here also rushed, each in his own way: who in totalitarian sects, who in pseudo scientology doctrine, who in multi-level marketing, and those who to themselves seemed cleverer – in the NLP. Such here, not too nice picture. Well, children's diseases and crises of development happen at all people. Let's come back to true normal human values and feelings.