In wildlife there was always a natural selection. Some beings are aggressors, others – the victims. In human nature this scheme exists too, however it is much more difficult as it is not about instincts, and protective mechanisms of mentality. For certain you had to meet the people considering themselves deeply unfortunate, requiring attention and support and also as if a magnet attracting to themselves problems. It is also the classical victims. Why people become the victims and whether there is a dependence between a mental condition of the person and probability that it will fall a victim of crime or violence?
Psychology of behavior of the victim
There is such concept as a syndrome of the victim. In psychology it is treated as manifestation of behavior of the person at which he provokes other people to violation of its rights. Especially it involves criminals and various aggressors. The feeling of internal powerlessness, a habit to complain and elicit pity to itself is characteristic of the victim. This stereotype of behavior is usually brought up in family and especially strongly can be shown during training at school. In classes children with a syndrome of the victim are usually isolated from people around and are derelicts.
The role of the victim, is studied by various sections of psychology, depending on circumstances under which the person began to try on it on himself. Today many ask a question – why some people constantly get into negative situations, and others are not present? For certain you have at least one acquaintance who constantly either is plundered, or the car forces down, or to him there is any misfortune. The science – a viktimologiya is engaged in search of the reasons and explanations for such phenomenon. She studies psychology of the victim of crime. In spite of the fact that the viktimnost of the human person is studied rather recently, scientists managed to open several facts:
- many victims of murder are characterized as egocentric persons, risky and imprudent. Such people in some cases are familiar with the murderer and also are persons, conflict, inclined to aggression, or abuse alcohol;
- the psychology of the victim of violence consists in her infantility, personal immaturity, lack of experience of the sexual relations and illegibility in acquaintances. Such people can be as indecisive, and are on the contrary excessively excentric;
- excessively trustful people become the victims of swindlers generally. They are often superstitious, experience material difficulties or too greedy;
- the victims of domestic violence or various tortures in most cases are depending on the aggressor. It can be the wife, mother, the husband, the cohabitant or the child. Most often it is people weak-willed, not having own opinion and a certain living position. Can lead an immoral life and even to have the social status above, than at an aggressor.
In spite of the fact that each person is an individual and events which happened to it differ from stories of other victims, scientists managed to find common features in their behavior and an emotional state.
Features of psychology of the victim
Why people become the victims? What predetermines such behavior? Reasons for this purpose a little:
- Low self-assessment. Most of the victims of swindlers and criminals are diffident people. It is possible to notice those in crowd.
- Fear to be distinguished – this feature originates in times of the Soviet Union when parents of many victims learned not to be allocated, to be as all, and those in turn imposed this thought to the children. As a result of people, not having the identity, in most cases risks to fall a victim. Criminals well feel such fear and will even be able easily to determine by appearance of such person whether it is worth attacking it.
- Dependence on opinion of people around. Unfortunately, most of people very much concerns that will tell about them those who are nearby. Such persons can impose any behavior if only it was reasoned as social and necessary. Often such victims fall into hands to addicts and regularly taking alcohol.
- Fear of failure. This problem is most often observed in families where the husband is a tyrant. It is simpler to women to play a role of the victim, than to leave from a beating and humiliations. The reason – fear to remain one and to nobody necessary.
The main feeling of the potential victim – fear. Each living organism in this state behaves in own way. Some try to hide and throw with the natural camouflage, others begin to exhale smells. The person begins to try on on himself various roles. There are three classical positions – the victim, her persecutor and the savior. For this reason in psychology such reception of treatment of the victim as a skazkoterapiya for adults is considered. Usual stories of our childhood gain other lines when the psychologist on shelves displays their hidden sense. For example, the tale of the victim Cinderella where there is an angry stepmother aggressor, and the rescuer acting through the fairy godmother perfectly will suit those who bear household humiliations. Of course, in life everything is not so simple. However the main task of the psychotherapist to explain to the patient that the role of the victim is a role of the outsider. Not to be favorable by the victim and to get rid of this feeling, it is necessary first of all to learn to be responsible for the life and the acts. Weak are sorry, but at the same time weak will be pecked by stronger rivals and opponents. If you or your familiar victims are not able to change the beliefs, it is necessary to hurry to the psychologist who quickly will help to get rid of the complexes put since the childhood. Otherwise in the first exit to the street you risk to meet an aggressor and to be caught in his cunning net.