Around us practically always someone is – spouses, parents, children, friends, colleagues and even absolutely strangers. It means the constant communication as wishing, and unforeseen. For bigger mutual understanding and on purpose not to break freedoms and views of others some rules of communication with people were thought up. It is noticed that when using at least of the basic rules of communication, people often try to obtain arrangement of others and have reputation of the pleasant interlocutor. Such ability of the correct communication positively influences also career development.
To us to have to communicate with different people, therefore, in each environment we try to use suitable rules because to everyone individual approach is necessary. Communication at work strikingly differs from communication with family or with friends on fishing.
Rules of communication with friends
It would seem that at communication with friends no rules are necessary, it is people close to us who perceive us such what we are. This delusion which can lead to contact loss. For example, in communication with the friend at strangers, we, as a rule, do not pass on "you", and quite often we address the interlocutor not by name, and on "nickname". Does not come to our mind that to the person it can be unpleasant.
At first we afford "caustic jokes" and sneers to friends, slightly scornful tone, and then sincerely we are surprised why in our life of so poorly good friends or why they do not want to spend together with us time any more.
There is a wish to note that how the world and our views changed, there will always be relevant a basic rule of communication between people is a respect. The relative, the chief, the fellow traveler in the train – does not matter, each person is worthy respect. Having comprehended this truth, everyone will get a chance to become the most interesting personality for others.
On rules of communication and communication the mass of books in which it is possible to find recommendations and councils for all occasions is written. Such authors as Dale Carnegie and Allan Piz are very popular. From all literature it is possible to select some of the most important rules which remain important and appropriate already many years, so to speak golden rules of communication. It is safely possible to carry the following to them:
- Always smile. The smile causes positive emotions and positive infusion, winning over the interlocutor (or even group of people).
- Accurately express. Especially, if business concerns a business meeting or just serious conversation. By the way, if your interlocutor the man, place emphasis on this rule doubly.
- Be polite. Also does not matter whether you talk to the chief or to subordinates, service staff or the child – the rudeness and familiarity yet served to nobody good service.
Rules of communication with children
The child is only the little adult and communication with it also demands certain skills. You remember, children do not that you speak, and repeat that, what are you doing. To other people's children at school, shop, on the street it is necessary to address on "you", it lifts their self-assessment and ennobles you in their eyes.
It is not necessary to let know to the child that you are stronger even purely physically, otherwise over time "run" on the same argument. Listen to children up to the end, do not kill it with words: "I so told, is more visible to me", otherwise in your family very closed child will grow up. Children have the right to the protection of the point of view.
And the most important governed in communication with children – it always try to find with them a common language. From any situation there is an exit which will suit both parties, it is just necessary to work and find it.
10 rules of communication with people
Close people often forgive us our mistakes (whether it be offensive words or silly acts), and here all others choose "simply not to deal with it any more". Therefore, at the first meeting or rare meetings with unfamiliar people in communication it is necessary to follow 10 simple rules:
- To listen more, than to speak.
- Not to lie most and not to force to lie the interlocutor.
- To think before telling.
- Not to deride the interlocutor.
- Not to interrupt, giving the chance to express.
- To avoid haughty, scornful behavior in relation to the interlocutor.
- To adhere to sure, but friendly tone.
- To respect the point of view of the interlocutor.
- To call the interlocutor by name.
- At a meeting with any person to have good, positive mood.
Begin to apply these effective rules in the life and you will see how your environment quickly will begin to change and grow. And, perhaps, you will get not only respect of colleagues and and many new and interesting friends.
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