Most often couples marry just because at some point they were fallen in love, got used to be together, or for them it was comfortable. The lack of the logical choice of the partner leads to the fact that it is possible to allocate different types of the family relations, in each of which – the features.
Harmonious types of the relations in family
Harmonious types of families are those families in which there are no serious, solved problems, partners learned to agree among themselves. These are such families as:
- The traditional family – it is based on stability, reproduction, aspiration "to be as all".
- The partner family – couple tries to agree, reach compromise, are responsible and put forces in the relations.
- The harmonious family – ideal type of the relations in which views of spouses are uniform and everything decides quietly.
- Dependent family – the relations in which partners are held together by fear of loneliness or financial disorder, existence of strong attachment. Subtypes have such relations:
- the relations like tyrant (predator) – the victim where one of spouses is suppressed with the second;
- the victim – the rescuer that is often observed in families of alcoholics and addicts;
- mother - the son, the relations where the husband receives almost maternal guardianship from the wife;
- the father – the daughter where the wife receives fatherly guardianship from the husband.
Except dependent family, all types look quite happy, though in dependent families there is happiness.
Disharmonious types of the matrimonial relations
These types assume existence of problems in the family relations which deliver experiences to one or both partners:
- Externally quiet family – behind illusion of rest is boredom and dissatisfaction.
- Volcanic family – family in which all scandals are taken out on court of the public.
- Family – sanatorium – the relations in which endures one spouses about health or the fate of the second, quite often forgetting about itself.
- Family – fortress is the union of two people, and even children can be superfluous if do not conform to requirements and expectations.
- Demonstrative family – the family similar to externally quiet family, with only that difference that all "happiness" exists only for show here, and inside – coldness and calculation.
- Family the third – superfluous are unripe relations in which spouses voluntarily refuse (child-free) children.
- The family with an idol is a family with the child in the center where the ostentatious love for it hides and compensates lack of close relations at parents.
- Family – a masquerade – the union where two always compete among themselves.
Having learned signs of disharmonious family in the matrimony, try to make efforts to bring it to the level of family happy. With it you will be helped by the family psychologist.
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