Friends and colleagues constantly play a trick on you? And maybe, you are not perceived seriously and do not respect people around? This problem needs to be solved quickly. Why you allow to treat so yourself and how not to give itself to humiliate? Let's try to understand these difficult questions.
How to fight against humiliation?
Humiliation begins not with circumstances under which it began, and even not with those who decided on this crime. First of all, the problem consists in the personality. Each person has a peculiar level or a limit after which the person considers any words and acts in the address below the advantage. Thus, humiliation of the personality it nothing but special lowering of a level of its advantage. And if the person constantly is exposed to the similar attacks from people around, so he allows to act this way with himself. Why it occurs?
As a rule, for the first time how to resist to humiliation people face a question at teenage age. Unfortunately, the world of younger generation is very cruel. And if the child had in a class that is called not to the yard, it is waited by not one year of pressure and mockeries from peers. Though as practice showed, the similar behavior from young aggressors is the veiled way to be allocated and not to be on the place of the poor schoolmate. The truth is one more party of a medal – teachers who the criticism add fuel to the fire and do the child's life still nevynosimy. Subsequently, many who suffered indignity in school days transfer this experience and on adulthood not in forces to cope with own inferiority complex. However any problem can be solved. It is only necessary to understand how to respond to humiliation and how to endure humiliation if all of you faced this social trouble. Let's begin with teenage age and we will try to find solutions of these difficult tasks gradually.
- What to do if the teacher humiliates the child? First of all parents have to ask this question. Their education directly influences a self-assessment and behavior of the child at school. First of all, it is important to fix trusting relationship with the child that parents could know how there are his affairs in school. The second important nuance consists in competent education. The self-assured child who is in every possible way supported by the family never will be subjected to persecution in own class. But if it after all occurred, then it is important to take two steps – 1) to Cultivate self-respect and ability to stand for itself 2 in the child) to Talk to the teacher who dared to violate rules of ethical and pedagogical standards and became personal with the pupil. It is also important to explain that information can reach the director, and even Department of Education. After that it is unlikely similar cases will repeat. And for the child in the best way will fight against humiliation to be ignoring of words and actions of offenders.
- What to do if the chief humiliates? If you faced the inadequate management which dared to encroach on your dignity, first of all, remember – it becomes not because you are really so bad as speak about you. Most likely, the reason is in the chief. As a rule, belittling of others, is attempt to get rid of own complexes. Therefore it is better not to pay attention to management pokes, and to regret the person at whom, most likely more complexes, than at all employees combined.
- What to do if the husband humiliates the wife, or on the contrary the wife humiliates the spouse. The answer will be similar to previous here. Humiliation of the partner is an attempt to seem stronger and to hide own weakness and insolvency. The main task of the party which is exposed to the attack – not to pay attention to similar actions. But if you are not able to suffer continuous pressure any more, once the second half explains that you not the ground for experiments and advantages to you it is not necessary to raise the self-assessment due to attempts to belittle yours. Also it concerns a question of many girls what to do if the guy humiliates them. The only council which can be given in such situation is to throw such guy. Why does the girl need the person who instead of a reliable support is a whirlpool which tightens it in own personal problems? And the girl definitely should not allow to humiliate herself.
What to do if you are humiliated and how to get rid of humiliation? In general, whatever circumstances under which there is an infringement of your advantage were, you should not blame not people around, and first of all yourself. If you were decided to be humiliated, so you it allowed. Let's assume that you made it not from good life. But to you nobody prevents to correct a situation. Replace a circle of contacts, begin to be fond of any single combats, you strike up new acquaintances, be engaged in self-development and enjoy own life. Generally, do everything to feel as the full-fledged and self-assured personality. And then you will be able to fight back, to any who will dare to underestimate a level of your self-esteem. You remember – those who try to humiliate you, are diffident people who try in any ways to raise the self-assessment. Just it is worth regretting and not to pay them any attention. You – are better and stronger than those who get under feet and try to bite stealthily.